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Now it’s YOUR turn!

“The truth is rarely pure and never simple.”

                   -Oscar Wilde 

Trust and honesty are two things that are talked a lot about in relationships.  Certainly, a strong relationship is one in which both partners communicate in an upfront and honest manner. 

But sometimes, the truth is the last thing your partner wants to hear…and it can get you into a lot of trouble!

Let’s look at some topics you never want to talk about with your girlfriend, fiancee, or wife!:

• Never talk about physical intimacy you had with ex’s.  Nothing will get you into more trouble than giving too many details about your ex’s.  Your lover may ask you about how it was…but don’t give her the answer!  Simply move the conversation along to other topics.  You can do this by teasing her and complimenting her simultaneously, making the whole question look silly: "What?  Are you jealous?  C’mon, you know you’re the best, why do you even need to ask?"
• Never talk about your partner’s poor finances. This is a big no-no, an absolutely big mistake.  Even if you’re paying for everything and your girlfriend doesn’t make nearly as much money as you do, don’t make the mistake of saying you pay for everything and contribute to all the purchases.  This is a quick way of getting into a big fight that goes nowhere!
• Never discuss your partner’s faults in a negative way.  Nothing wrong with letting your partner know that she’s doing something wrong or needs some help, such as if she gets boozed up every night and offends people, or is too sloppy around the house.  But bringing up your partner’s faults day in and day out, especially in a sardonic, bitter, or just plain mean fashion, will not accomplish anything.  Not only will your partner come to resent you for always picking on her flaws, but she’ll never change and very likely leave you, as well.  Girls need to be understood, not criticized.
• Never, ever talk badly about her weight!  In fact, don’t even bring up the subject at all unless you can say nice things about her, such as, "Oh, have you lost weight?" or "Wow, your body’s looking really great today!"  Too skinny, too fat: doesn’t matter.  Either way, girls will be hurt by what you say, so stay away from this topic unless you can say something positive.

Of course, there is a certain place for the truth; no relationship is complete without it.  While you shouldn’t talk about sex with past lovers, that doesn’t mean you can’t describe your relationships with her.  Showing that you have nothing to hide is a big element of trust.  Even if you had a bad break-up with a past girlfriend, it’s up to you to let your present lover know about it.  The more you hide from her, the more trouble you’ll get into later. 

So give your partner the truth–just not the painful truth.  As Pietro Aretino says:

“I love you, and because I love you, I would sooner have you hate me for telling you the truth than adore me for telling you lies.”

What makes a good date?  Money?  Romance?  Good conversation?

Those things help, but what ultimately matters is how you make a woman feel.  The feelings, the positive or negative emotions she gets from being around you, are what separate you from success and failure.  And believe me, if you can make her feel great emotions when you’re in her presence, there’s nothing to stop you from seduction and relationship success!

With that said, how do you summon good emotions into your date?  How do you make her associate a positive feeling with YOU?  How do you draw out the emotions that make a woman want to take things to the next level of intimacy and relationships?  The way I see it, there are three factors to success:

1. Where You Take Her

2. How You Present Yourself

3. How You Handle Your Date

Each of these is crucial.  You must not succeed in only one area, but in all of them.  Let’s look at each:

First is where you take your date.  The great thing about dating is that it gives you a chance to use "props" to make yourself look like a winner.  If you take a gorgeous women to a really fun place at which she has the time of her life, it’s not going to matter so much how you look, what you say, or how much money you have.  Bring a woman to a really fun place like a salsa class or theme park, and she’ll connect the positive emotions from those places, automatically, with you.  It’s a wonderful thing.

One key thing to remember is that you want to choose your date location based on the kind of things you want a woman to associate with you.  If you want her to feel excitement and energy, bring her to a carnival or theme park.  If you want her to think of you as intelligent and serious (careful with that one), take her to a play or perhaps a poetry reciting.  And if you have the time and money, and want her to think of you as daring and adventurous, you can’t go wrong with a bungee jumping or white-water rafting date!

Then there are dinner dates.  I discourage dinner dates because unless you’re a gourmand or a chef who has a passion for food, dinner dates don’t say much about you.  On top of that, they can be very expensive and yield no results.  Who wants to spend $200 on a girl only to get nothing out of it?  All she sees out of a guy who takes her out to dinner is someone who’s unoriginal and plays by the book; he’s not a risk-taker.  So try something more daring and engaging.  Something like indoor rock climbing doesn’t cost that much at all, and will yield much better results.

As Leil Lowndes, author of "How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You," writes, "someone is more likely to be attracted to another if he or she is emotionally aroused-even if the arousal does not come from the person."

Next, let’s look at how you present yourself.  Now, with this, I’m not talking about how good-looking you are to the woman, but more about how you position yourself: what you say about yourself through your clothes and hygiene.  You can’t expect a date to go well if your clothes look frumpy and your teeth have gunk in them.  But if you wear nice clothes that are clean, ironed, and a bit funky or sophisticated, then you’re communicating to women that you care about your appearances.  You give her the feeling that she’s with a guy who pays attention to appearances and wants to convey success.  A guy who wears a suit does not look trashy or poor.  But a guy who arrives at a date wearing ripped-up jeans and has hair like he just came out of bed…well, how is she supposed to feel anything other than disgust at that one?  What you wear, how you style your hair (even if you’re bald!), and how clean and fresh you come across: these are the things that INSTANTLY create emotions in women.  Make sure you stir up the right emotions!

Finally, let’s talk about how you handle your date.  That is, how do you manage the date as it moves along?  With confidence, the actions that suggest you are of high status, and a bit of cockiness…or with hesitation, treating the date with more respect than yourself, and low confidence?  To me, there are three "checkpoints" in every date:

1. How you greet your date.  Do you act like you’re lucky to see her?  Do you say, "Wow, great to see you, you look beautiful!" or something to that effect?  If so, stop.  That just make a woman think that you feel lucky to be with her.  She doesn’t want to feel like she’s with a guy who’s not good enough for her.  She wants to feel like she’s not good enough to be with YOU.  Doing little things that force her to respect you, like calling her out for being late or simply greeting her with a laid-back, "What’s up?" accomplish that.

2. How you move things along.  Nothing makes a girl more uncomfortable–and lowers her association of things with you–than an awkward pause in the date.  This doesn’t mean that you’re not allowed to let things die down a little; it just means that you have to know how to handle these pauses.  In my e-book I discuss a lot about control–how to handle situations and make the most of them.  In a date, you want to be able to go from silence one second to laughter and excitement the next.  There are many ways to do this, including teasing a girl about something or bringing up something interesting she said earlier (showing her that you listen to what she says, which makes her feel valued).

3. How you end it and set things up for next time.  Do you end a date leaving a girl wanting more?  Do you reveal everything about yourself in the first (or second or third) date, or make her curious for next time?  Do you seek validation from her…or have her seeking validation from YOU?  These are the things you want to think about…the areas that show you have confidence in seeing her again, and confidence that you can direct her where you want.

Naturally, there’s much more to a date than this.  What do you say?  What specific strategies can you employ to make her interested in more?  What are the very best places to take a date?

Fortunately, there are answers: My How to Be Irresistible to Women course.  Find it now at:

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I’ve got a whole, extensive section on setting up the first date, where to go, and what kinds of actions and attitudes work towards raising the attraction levels to insane levels.  It’s all in there, along with dozens of articles that will help you in the specific areas you want to address.  Not to mention my free Members Consulation, where you can ask me anything you want about how to get the women you want.

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It’s YOUR turn.

While in Christchurch, New Zealand recently (it’s "sweet as" to all you Kiwis), I read a funny article in The Press.  Just the title alone caught my attention: "If you dump a woman she hates you, OK?"  So you knew I had to read on…

Well, this interesting article, by Barbara Ellen, explains in a light but serious-enough tone the hurt that women go through when a man breaks up with them.  "If you dump a woman," Ellen writes, "however sweet she appears to be about it, she hates you [emphasis added]–do you get that?  You have rejected her, probably completely wasted her time, and you want to remain ‘friends’?  Fine, so long as you don’t mind having ‘friends’ who would happily knit jumpers with your intestines."  Funny, but frighteningly true.

Yes, for men, breaking up with women is no walk in the park.  Many times we wait ages to execute the deed we’ve wanted to do for weeks, months, even years.  We start to feel guilty, start to wonder if we really can get another girl, and most of all, start to fear that this girl could be some crazy psycho out to stalk and murder us! 

 My brother went through an episode like that–the girl he "broke up with" (it was really just more of a fling) didn’t go to bed, paced in his hallway all night, and kept him awake out of the very real fear that she could murder him in his sleep!  When women are dumped, it doesn’t matter how nice you may have been about it: all THEY see is the bad!  They go into freak mode, and there’s no stopping that.  As Ellen writes,

"Female dumpees are usually too busy in the aftermath of a dumping to sit down and think rationally about whether a man has been nice or not.  They have to get on with the really important stuff (slashing tyres, burning down houses, eventually getting arrested).  It’s a nightmare;there’s just so much to do."

A lighthearted commentary on a very serious issue.  What should we men do when we no longer feel love (or horniness) in our heart for a woman? 

Well, as it turns out, there’s actually a company in Germany called Separation Services (I’m sure the German words for it are about 157 letters long) that has made a business out of doing the dumping for US!  This is no joke: The company is run by a guy nicknamed "Terminator" (if only this were run out of Austria!) "who, for a small fee, will do your dumping for you, offering a range of services from ‘sensitive phone call’ to ‘personalized house visit’ (the deluxe package featuring a ‘detailed explanation’ about why they are getting dumped)."

Is this really how bad the dumping scene has gotten?  Do we actually need men named Terminator to do the dumping for us?  I mean, I never enjoyed dumping girls either, but I can’t see someone ELSE doing it for me!

There’s a right way and a wrong way to breaking up with a girl, and I don’t see how hiring a guy named after an Arnold Schwarzenegger character could be listed in the "Right" category. 

On top of that, I disagree with what Ellen says about remaining friends; just because you break up with a girl does not automatically mean that her idea of being friends is stalking you and vandalizing your property.  I’ve had more than a few breakups, but I’m actually still friends with most of the girls I broke up with.  Sure, this was hurt, there was anger, there were long periods of not talking to one another.

But you know what?  I did the breakup with RESPECT and HONESTY, and when you do that, it’s only a matter of time til women see that, in fact, you WERE being nice about it.  Sometimes they even thank you for it, seeing that you weren’t the right man for them and opened the door for a better one.  The same, of course, applies to us men. 

There’s actually GROWTH in dating; sometimes, all it takes is a breakup for someone to wake up and realize that they don’t need someone to find true happiness.  A breakup can lead to bigger and better things, and better people.  When people are honest with each other and with themselves, a break-up doesn’t have to lead to revenge or calling up a German dating termination service.  Instead, it becomes an opportunity, a liberation, a fresh start. 

As Ellen admits,

"It’s never pretty, but men should remember that if they dump well (kindly and with grace), it could be possible that, just a few tears and death threats later (perhaps a touch of light stalking), most women will be able to move on and rediscover the joys of single life."

Well put…but light stalking and death threats don’t have to occur.  Sometimes, a man and a woman can even put past differences and hurts aside enough to make up and start their relationship anew.  I know a few couples who have done this, and it’s led to beautiful, blissful relationships.

So, what’s the BEST way to determine if you should make up…or break up?

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Learn how to attract the women of your dreams NOW!

Welcome to the first edition of Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Seduction (But Were Afraid to Ask!).  This series is designed to help you expand your wisdom in the world of attraction and seduction.  As I said in a previous post, women love men with knowledge, so the more you know, the more powerful you become.  Everything associated with wisdom and knowledge–wit, talents, special skills, knowing what women want, etc.–makes you a superior man. 

It’s my mission to make you a magnet of information, attracting all the positive stuff, repelling all the negative stuff.  There’s no sense wasting your time with information and emotions that don’t make you a superior man (example: the many, many pickup books that are an absolute waste of time).  So I’m going to help you attract the information YOU need to know, to get the girls you want! 

To do that, I’ll be sharing my favorite websites for quality information.  Here you can learn all the things you should do…and all the things you shouldn’t! 

The first website you need to know about is:

http://www.UrbanDictionary.com 

So much of the seduction community is centered around terms, initials, and euphemisms.  There’s IOI, DHV, negging, cocky funny, inner wuss, ATC, frame control–you name it, there’s a term for it.  Knowing these terms isn’t crucial, but the meaning of the terms themselves is very special knowledge.  For example, you don’t necessarily need to know that ATC means Artificial Time Constraint, but understanding the concept of only spending a limited time around women before taking off, is invaluable.

Urbandictionary.com is a great website for sorting out all the terms.  Enjoy, and remember: Knowledge is only as good as putting into action.  Follow the lead of Kahlil Gibran:

"A little knowledge that acts is worth infinitely more than much knowledge that is idle."

Here’s just a sample of the informative (and often hilarious) terms found in this website: 

UrbanDictionary.com Definition of…

Love

"Often confused with infatuation by adolescents, college students and even supposedly mature people. Love is not the often associated chemical reaction which has similar effects on the brain as cocaine, nor is it the inability to be without that person for a day."

-OMG! I’m sooo in love with Brad Pitt!!
-No you’re not. You just want his small wang. You don’t even know him!
-*Cries* No, I will marry him! I’m going to go home and fantasize about him! *Cries and runs away*

UrbanDictionary.com Definition of…

Kino

"The act of making flirtatious physical contact with a person of sexual interest. Generally considered to be a vital tool in one’s ‘Game Belt.’"

Hopefully I can get some action by using a little kino on the ladies tonight.

UrbanDictionary.com Definition of…

Oneitis

"Often confused with love, this is the feeling that a particular woman is actually special. This is just an illusion; she is the same as the other three or so billion."  ‘Go **** ten other women’ is the most commonly prescribed treatment for this "disease" (hence the "itis"), as it tends to show quite quickly how very alike people are.

In other words, get over yourself and your obsession with that girl, because it’s just an illusion. And when you get rejected, don’t be depressed. Because there’s really not much to worry about."

Dude, you definitely have oneitis for that girl. You’ve been talking about her nonstop for the past week. Don’t you realize she’s nothing special, and that you are just being fooled? Snap out of it so you won’t be so depressed when she rejects you!

UrbanDictionary.com Definition of…

Neg

"A light insult wrapped in the package of a complement. Used by pick-up artists to gain and maintain the attention of women who possess uncommon beauty (9+). These women are immune to standard complements."

The classic neg

pua – "you have beautiful nails, are they real?"
(9+) -"not really"
pua – "Oh, I guess thats still cool"

"I just kept tossing neg after neg at that 10 standing by the bar, and she loved it, she was giving me crazy kino"

UrbanDictionary.com Definition of…

DHV

"Noun: Demonstration of Higher Value
Verb: Demonstrate Higer Value

Presentation that will increase your value in the opinion of your audience."

I related a funny and cocky joke as a DHV.

UrbanDictionary.com Definition of…

AMOG

"Alpha Male Of the Group

A guy that everyone thinks is cool and is always the social center of the room."

Bob: Dude, why is everyone crowding arounding that bag of douche?

Me: Cause he’s a total AMOG

UrbanDictionary.com Definition of…

Beta Male

"An unremarkable, careful man who avoids risk and confrontation. Beta males lack the physical presence, charisma and confidence of the Alpha male."

Pete knew he was losing the girl he’d just met at the bar to the guy who bought her a drink, but he was too much of a beta male to do anything about it.

UrbanDictionary.com Definition of…

Sarging

"Verb; to Sarge.
The act of engaging conversational rapport with a complete stranger.
Though tied to the seduction community as the official name for being "on the hunt," the term also applies in business and interpersonal relations, as the act of appearing as a socially versatile and competent person.

Credit to Ross Jeffries, who claims to have named the act after his cat."

in seduction:
"My wingman and I went sarging last night at club X."

other:
"The goal in business is to sarge your coworkers as soon as you start working there. It’s a quick way to appear competent!"

UrbanDictionary.com Definition of…

mPUA

"Master Pick Up Artist.
Used to refer to one who has attained legendary status within the ‘Pick Up Artist’ community. Originally used to refer solely to Neil Strauss, aka Style. Referenced in Strauss’s book ‘The Game’."

Man Style kept eight girls on the go, he truly is a mPUA.

And now, my personal favorite definition…

Friendship

"A method of castrating men without using sharp objects."

From David DeAngelo’s article:

She looked at him with compassion in her eyes and said "Thank you… I really mean that… but I don’t want to mess up our friendship… you’re too important to me…"

Now that’s something you definitely want to avoid!  And if you want to make sure the words "just friends" never enter your eardrums again, visit the place that turns men around the world from "just friends" to "seduction masters": Triple 0 Relationships.com!

Because it’s your turn!

It’s a common complaint, an annoying situation, even a man’s worst nightmare.

You know what I’m talking about: When a girl you like wants to be "just friends."

Aaaaargh!  Who wants that?  You like this girl, you want intimacy, but all she wants is friendship.  How do you turn things around?

In short, you have to make a girl REMEMBER you.  Whereas guys who are much more than friends are always on a woman’s mind, friends are just…there.  There’s no special emotion connected to them.  They’re just…friends.

So how do you change this?

Let’s start with the basics: What do women want in a romance?  Well, if you’ve read my previous blog post (and if you haven’t, do it now!), you know that women are looking for STAND-UP GUYS, guys who mean business and don’t take no for an answer.  They want a protector, a defender, a man who will always be at their side.

Now ask yourself: Is that me?

If you’re the kind of guy who avoids conflict, treats women with deference and worship, jumps at the opportunity to listen to her moan…

Then you’re a nice guy.  You don’t stand up for yourself.  You don’t assume leadership.  You sit down when a woman wants you to jump up and save her butt!

So it seems, nice guys always finish last.  They end up in the friend zone, instead of the BED zone.

But does it have to be that way?

NO!  You just have to make one change that will forever transform your game.  I’m not talking about becoming a bad boy; you can be a stand-up guy without being a jerk.  Stand-up guys are just good guys who give women the same things they love about bad boys–without beating girls up and treating them like trash. 

I’m talking about bringing to the table the one thing girls love.  The one thing bad boys–and stand-up guys–have that nice guys just don’t.  The difference between nice guys and STAND-UP guys can pretty much be summarized in one word: attitude.

The stand-up guys, the guys who are MORE than just friends, bring ALPHA ATTITUDE to the table.  They bring confidence, swagger, independence, and centered-ness around them.  Whereas nice guys revolve their worlds around pleasing and being nice to women, stand-up guys revolve their world around themselves.  They’re on a path, a mission, and if a woman doesn’t want to join them, it’s her loss.  But if she does want to join him, she better recognize that his world, is her world.  Not the other way around.  

If a girl is "just friends" with you, she probably doesn’t take you seriously enough.  Or, you haven’t shown her you’re serious enough about HER for her to make a move herself.

So how do you change things so that your female friend/acquaintance/secret crush will be attracted to you? 

I really like is advice from Carlos Xuma’s  "Secrets to Becoming the Alpha Male":

"Women want STRONG Alpha Men. Guys who can lead them and protect them.

Don’t make the mistake of believing that women want jerks. They
only desire certain Alpha qualities the jerk possesses and that the
Nice Guy is afraid to show.

These Alpha qualities act like a potent drug on her nervous system,
blinding her (temporarily) to the reality of the Jerk’s bad
influence. Eventually she finds herself emotionally locked to
someone she doesn’t like, but can’t seem to get away from."

In other words, you show a girl attitude.  You penetrate her emotions.  You become a drug to her, someone so daring, so masculine, so irresistible, that thoughts of you are stuck in her head day and night.  They want to see you so badly, that nothing else crosses their minds.

Contrast these emotions to the ones she feels about nice guys, the "just friends."  Does she even remember who they are?

When it comes to getting the girls you want, it often all comes down to the first meeting and first impression. It’s true, two of the most common mistakes men make are either showing too much sexual intention too soon, or not showing any at all. Mistake number two will leave you in the Friend Zone. So how do you strike that balance?

ANSWER: The "How to Be Irresistible to Women" e-course and audio series!  In my chapter on "Nice Guys," you’ll find out the FIVE WAYS to project bad boy attitude, and get bad boy results…without a personality makeover!  You can read that chapter, and many more, by downloading my e-book at: 

http://www.000relationships.com/towomen

You’ll get everything you need to know about building alpha attitude, forming emotional connections that women can’t resist, and raising the attraction level from friendship to physical relationship. 

Hey, you don’t have to finish last.  Finish first!  Because it’s YOUR turn.

Ever heard of David DeAngelo?  If you’re familiar with the seduction community, then you’ve probably seen his name.  He’s the "guru" behind such phrases as "cocky funny," "attraction is not a choice," and one of my personal favorites, "Different in a preferential way."  He’s also the author of "Double Your Dating," and the host of the amazing  "Interviews with Dating Gurus" audio series.  Basically, he’s a guy who’s gone from "average chump who can’t get girls" to "relationship oracle."  The big question is, Should you buy his product?

Unlike a lot of other guys out there, DeAngelo didn’t become a seduction master overnight, just by throwing tips and tricks at the wall and seeing what stuck.  DeAngelo actually took the time to get to the root of why he wasn’t attracting females, the same thing I say is the key to a man’s success with anything: INNER GAME.  As he writes, "When I made the decision to get this part of my life handled, I decided that instead of trying to start with an angle…that I would like to learn in a way that gave me power to act with just my personality and presentation.  In other words, I wanted to make this part of who I was rather than a ‘trick.’"

One thing you realized as you read DeAngelo’s book is that there is so much more to the art of attracting women than just techniques and gaming.  There’s a whole world of self-improvement and self-mastery that one needs to achieve to truly succeed with women and life.  There’s neurolinguistic programming, attitudes,
mindsets, frame control, inner states: fascinating, brilliant information that DeAngelo explains in detail.  He truly follows what I call "ABL": Always Be Learning.  By opening your mind to new things every day, you open doors to personal success and self-esteem you never knew possible.  In fact, by embracing inner game techniques, says DeAngelo, succeeding with women becomes natural for you, which is a sharp contrast to the products a lot of pick-up artists and other "experts" sell.  A lot of guys will tell you you just need to ACT alpha, or BE someone you’re not.  But that doesn’t really solve the problem, does it?  Because you’re still unhappy with who you are, and women notice that.  They’re turned off by your insecurity and fakeness.

But DeAngelo doesn’t recommend being someone you’re not; he recommends being the best person you can be.  DeAngelo dedicated himself to learning everything he can about mind frames, skills, and attitudes: the keys to success, and truly fascinating keys, at that.  He recommends every kind of motivational book from "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway" to "Think and Grow Rich," by Napoleon Hill.  This is important, because as he says, you can never know enough about success.  "Keep improving all the time, even if it’s the SMALLEST DETAIL."  There’s always something you can do better…how you respond to a female asking you for a light, how you walk into a bar, how you handle rejection–EVERYTHING.  In this book, DeAngelo takes you through some deep stuff that will truly set you up for success far beyond just female attraction, because it will be ingrained in you.  Flirting and approaching won’t be lines you have to remember; they’ll become natural extensions of your personality.

Of course, "Double Your Dating" isn’t just about mindsets and attitude: it’s really about what things turn women on, where to go, how to talk, how to react: in short, how to successfully interact with females.  DeAngelo takes you through common problems of insecurity, neediness, self-doubt, shyness, and other common problems, and specifically how to overturn them.  He tells you how to catch beautiful women’s attention by wearing the right clothes and positioning yourself the right way, what to say to bitchy women, how to reverse situations so that YOU look like the catch, and most interesting of all, the six things that attract women.

For example, one of the things women instinctually love is exclusivity: playing hard to get, already having a girlfriend, that sort of thing.  DeAngelo lists a number of ways to make yourself seem exclusive, including having snappy responses, pretending to not be interested, acting unpredictably, and really fascinating, "short-circuiting the all-annoying testing mechanism." Curious how that works?  Then definitely check out the book.

There are a lot of tips David gives that one wouldn’t normally think of.  For example, always ending conversations first.  This has two advantages: first, it says you’re not a needy guy, and you have things to do.  Secondly, it gives YOU control of every
situation.  As he writes: "If you start doing this with EVERY call, EVERY meeting, and EVERY conversation, you will be blown away by the responses you’ll get.  You’ll have women say, ‘What?  But we’re having so much fun…!’, ‘Well, when can I see you again?’, or ‘Don’t you like me?’"

It’s different stuff, but as DeAngelo says, "In the mating game, it pays to be different in an ATTRACTIVE way."  How do you do that?  DeAngelo explains in great detail how doing things like treating a bitchy women with attitude and control of the situation, instead of apologizing and obeying her commands, will set her heart on fire and instantly separate YOU from 99% of the other guys out there…even the tall, rich, and handsome ones!

Truly mind-blowing stuff.  But, is "Double Your Dating" right for you?

Besides the fascinating e-book and three free books on sex and attraction that will open your mind to areas of attraction and self-improvement you probably would have NEVER thought of before, you also get some really good audio CDs.  These are interviews with guys who have "made it," who understand the principles behind female attraction.  You get to hear big names like Style, Mystery, Carlos Xuma, and my personal favorite, Ken Kenny.  We’re talking the heavyweights of the seduction community here.  DeAngelo gives a forum for you to hear the best of the best information out there. He’s like an Oprah of the dating world!  To me, that’s a good thing that’s worth checking out for the amount of quality learning alone!

So you get the e-book, three bonus books, a free double "Interview with Dating Gurus" CD-set, as well as a free month’s subscription to the "Dating Gurus" interview series.  Not bad for just $19.97, isn’t it?

I mean, there are lots of dating books, seminars, and CDs out there. Why pick up DeAngelo’s?  Well, in the end I feel his groundbreaking self-mastery concepts and ability to provide you with fascinating advice from dozens of other gurus (even female ones!), to be the difference.  You can buy other products that will tell you what it means if a girl’s head leans to the left, and what it means if she leans to the right.  You can learn techniques that feel unnatural and forced; maybe they’ll work one or two nights.  That kind of stuff is okay, but you’ll quickly forget it and it will only really help you for, maybe, one good night.

What you really want is a resource that can change your attitudes and approaches to women FOREVER.  Not for one night of success, but for many.  You want a resource that will make your attraction skills and techniques a natural part of you, something that springs automatically from your powerful inner game.  I would say that "Double Your Dating" IS that resource.

So if you’re keen to learn more, find out how to attract women now at the Double Your Dating website.

Enjoy!

When it comes to attracting women, sometimes you have to think like a marketer.  You have to consider your "packaging," and the way you present your "product."  That means you have to take the time to think like the "consumers"–women–and know what they want.  Because when it comes to the world of female attraction, the customer is always right!

Remember that before they can get to know the "real" you, women only have visual cues on which to judge your worthiness: your clothes, your height, your demeanor, your status.  We men are just like any other product: we are immediately judged by the packaging.  Whereas evolutionary science suggests that men consider only youth and physical attractiveness to select a mate or sex partner, women need more than that.  Their evolutionary hard-wiring, determined to find the best mate for them and their unborn children, requires them to look a little bit deeper for a worthy husband or sex partner.  This is where we men have to put ourselves in the shoes of our "customers" if we want to sell our "product."

One evolutionary scientist, Dr. David Buss, did a study of over 10,000 people in 37 countries, on six continents, and found that women value men based on three big things: ambition, status, and financial resources.  Similarly, relationship expert, Andrea P. Roberts, suggests that women determine a man’s worthiness based on 3 "T’s", or "takais," a Japanese word that represents good qualities: education level, physical height, and salary level.   Quite a bit deeper than having a nice ass and big breasts, isn’t it?

Okay, some of you may be thinking: Well, I’m not tall, and I’m not rich.  Now what?!?

The good news is, height and wealth are only things that women pre-qualify men on; it’s not the be-all and end-all of attraction.  It’s similar to saying you want a really expensive car…but that doesn’t mean you’d never drive a Honda. As Roberts writes, "even an ordinary man doesn’t have to be exceptionally rich or powerful to make women want him. It’s all a matter of the women’s perspective if he ends up taller, smarter or wealthier than them." 

Got that?  It’s all about perspective: how you market yourself successfully to a woman.  Hey, lots of people know that Apple computers are better than PC’s, but that doesn’t seem to stop Microsoft, does it?  So if you’re short, or of average income, but present your positive traits in the right way, it won’t matter: you’ll become the Windows of the male market!  As Roberts writes, "Think of Napoleon, Mickey Rooney or Groucho; they are humorous, artistic or politically powerful men who wooed women into their beds and, horizontally, the height issue wasn’t a factor. Polite and persuasive persistence is the best trait."

So what we have are five areas that we must appeal to if we want to spark an initial attraction from women.  After that, it’s up to you to show what a great guy you are: let her know you’re special, unique, one of a kind.  That’s what ultimately separates the haves from the have-nots.  Even good-looking, tall guys will strike out if they lack other qualities women look for, such as humor, courage, and love. 

So don your thinking caps, guys: It’s time to think like marketers and adopt the 5 things women immediately look for in men!

1. Ambition

From an evolutionary stand-point, this one makes complete sense.  Think cavemen and cave women in the Stone Age, with some of the weaker cavemen seeking a higher station in the power hierarchy.  Who do you think the cave women went for?  The men who hobbled along meekly in the bottom of the order…or the men who strived for more and sought a higher place in the pack?  Much of a woman’s desire to be with a man who is ambitious and seeks success, is based simply on survival: The more powerful the man, the more likely she’ll survive and live well.  From a logical standpoint, going for a guy who has no ambition means she’s likely to live in poverty and struggle.  Not too appealing, is it?  You can’t really blame females for thinking like this; no one wants to stay at the bottom of the pack living in misery.

So you have to present yourself as a guy who’s not satisfied with his station in life.  This is good for both you and her.  If you’re making $7 an hour at the gas station and are content to stay there, not many women are going to be attracted to you.  But if you’re making $7/hour and working your ass off to become an owner of a gas station, taking business classes at night so you can learn how to run a business: well, suddenly you’re not so bad-looking!  Believe me, women will give men a chance, they want to–as long as they see potential.  If you’re headed somewhere, they’ll deal with the short-term struggles knowing that you’re on a path to greatness.  More importantly, by being ambitious and aiming for more, you’re helping yourself out.  It’s a win-win situation.

2. Status

Again, evolutionary hardwiring makes women naturally attracted to men of high status; it’s very much a comfort and survival issue.  High status=good living for herself and her children.  Fortunately, projecting high status does not have to be difficult; according to Roberts, "Wearing the right clothes, especially nice shoes, can go a long way toward portraying wealth. Taking on the unshaken or unworried attitude of wealthy men can project affluence. Hesitant, irresolute, bland men come across as having lower incomes and being less reliable."  Got that?  You don’t have to be a powerful, articulate man yourself–you just have to project similar qualities.

Some of these qualities include:

* Not putting yourself down.  Without being a braggart, talk positively about your accomplishments, job position, and possessions–even if they’re not much.  If you treat things as a big deal, other people will, too.  Conversely, if you downplay your accomplishments and character, women will, too.  Your attitude is contagious, so remember to paint things in the right light.

* Act confidently around women.  Don’t let women assume a higher status than you.  Show them that YOU are the one with higher status.  You can do this in a number of ways, including not acting impressed by a woman’s beauty or career (say, she’s a model); teasing her about her clothes or makeup; and asking her to buy you a drink.  Chances are she won’t, but just by acting like you deserve it, you raise your status!  She’s not such an untouchable goddess in the end. 

Remember, as well, that women want to EARN a man; they relish the challenge of luring in a winning catch.  So play hard to get: talk to other girls, say you’ve got to be leaving just when things are going well, don’t immediately ask for her phone number.  If you act like a man who can have his pick of women, then chances are, you will!

* Knowing people of high status.  This is a great one.  Get to know the people of power: the club owners, bartenders, maitres’d.  Position yourself as a sociable person who’s in the know.  When a woman sees you getting special treatment and chatting with high-status people, she’ll see right away that you’re someone of importance.  It will also reduce the importance of the other factors, such as height, money, and ambition; immediately you’ve proven yourself valuable.

* Wearing nice clothes.  "When a man is well dressed," writes communications expert, Leil Lowndes, "it signifies his ability to provide for her offspring." You don’t have to be rich and powerful to wear nice clothes.  You just have to show that you’re a man of quality, a man headed towards somewhere who pays attention to dress (something women cna never get enough of).  Formal clothes, such as a suit, convey that you are serious about success; you desire good things.  So just by wearing a nice sports jacket, dress shirt, and slacks, you let a woman know you’re a man with status.  You’re a man who could provide for her and her children.

Colors in clothing and jewelry are vital: Studies show that red, burgundy, and black clothes convey high status.  So get yourself some nice black suits or formal wear, a red shirt, and one of my favorites (and girls’!), a sleek burgundy button-down shirt.  They all convey regality and strength.  In the case of red, you have the added bonus of sexuality, power, and dominance: definitely good qualities to portray!  Go and purchase a nice red polo shirt, or red tie for your suit. 

If you enjoy white clothes–the color of purity and cleanliness–then make sure you work on your TAN.  White clothes against a dark backdrop make you look exotic, sexy, and well-travelled.  You don’t have to be an jet-setting playboy, to look like one!

* Winning body language.  Women judge men by the way they move and position themselves; it’s part of their superior communication skills to know what a man is thinking or feeling based on his body language.  So, position yourself in the right way: don’t slouch, sit upright, gaze at her knowingly, lean into her to initiate intimacy.  I’ve got a great column on body language that will teach you the right ways–and the wrong ways–to project high status.

3. Financial Resources

According to Matthew Fitzgerald, author of "Sex-ploitation," "Studies with college coeds show that when shown photographs of men dressed in high-status uniforms (suits, ties, expensive watches, etc.) and low-status uniforms, these women would be significantly more willing to enter into relationships with the more expensively-attired males regardless of the man’s physical appearance. To a woman, attraction is simple: green is very good-looking."

Okay, so not every guy has money for expensive suits and watches, and materialism may not be part of your game.  However, if you want to impress women, one of the fastest ways is by wearing snazzy clothes, sporting nice shoes (girls LOVE shoes!), and driving an expensive car.  Especially when it comes to designer brands, women are VERY keen at spotting high-quality products.  It’s just part of their nature; with expensive possessions come high status and ambition, and a more comfortable lifestyle.  Again, this all comes from their instinctual drive for survival and prosperity for themselves and their children.  By owning the best, you become the best.  At least on the surface.

For guys who don’t want to live such a shallow existence, never fear.  As Roberts writes, "Remember; money is just an energy that represents some emotion for women. Money is equivalent to affection, and perhaps gives them a sense of freedom, security and power. You can substitute money for feelings. For example, if she likes the freedom she gets from having money, you could ramble around in a motor home on hardly any cash and she’ll be happy."  In the end, it’s comfort that women want, and money can only give so much of that.  I know many women who passed up on pretentious, wealthy men for ones who weren’t rich on possessions but wealthy in love and care. 

Ultimately, if you want true love it’s up to you to find women who share the same goals and values.  If money and status aren’t the most important things in life for you, don’t chase the girls who do prioritize those things.  Don’t go for the shallow, bitchy types who only judge a man by how much he can spend on her.  Read my blog on choice to gain a greater understanding of the importance of choosing only women who fit YOUR purpose,  direction, and values.

4. Educational Level

Knowledge really is power, and on top of that, it’s an aphrodisiac!  Gone are the days when being smart was acquainted with being a nerd; now, knowledge and intelligence are your friends.  It’s the easiest way to money, and the easiest way to success.  So show it off a little.  Let her know your TALENTS, your interests, your areas of special knowledge.  As Roberts writes, "Women are drawn to experts like…Bill Gates and Chris Rock because they’re experts in their industries."  Neither of those guys is particularly good-looking, but they’re good at what they do, and parlay their knowledge into success, which drives women wild.

A guy who’s an expert is one who is clearly successful and of higher status.  At the very least, having a special knowledge means you have the TOOLS for success, and can provide intellectual stimulation for a girl (which, unless she’s a bimbo with an IQ of 70, is quite important for women).   Additionally, just being in school is a great way to show off your knowledge: "If you’re in school, not only are there more women available, but you’ve already demonstrated to them that you’re getting educated. Otherwise, it’s up to you to come across as reliable and credible without making her feel dumb."

5. Physical Aptitude

Physical height alone is an easy way to catch a woman’s attention, but it’s not the only thing.  Again, evolutionary mechanics come into play here.  A man who is tall, strong, and athletic is more likely to fend off threats to the woman and her children.  He is also more likely to have a strong immune system, which will further aid their chances of survival.  So, you can’t blame women too much for valuing these things: in the world of female attraction, it really is a survival of the fittest.  Those who show women they are in shape and healthy are much more likely to survive the dating game!  Ergo, athletes, bouncers, firemen get the girls.

What does this mean for guys who aren’t very fit or tall?  It means, for your benefit, you should get in shape.  Build some muscles (you don’t have to be a bodybuilder to look good), improve your heart-rate, learn how to defend yourself with a martial arts class or boxing.  A guy who women think can protect them and pass on good genes to their children, is an attractive one. 

As for height, it’s all a matter of perspective.  We’ve all seen short guys with tall beautiful women.  Neil Strauss himself, the best of the best pickup artists, is just 5’6" yet gets more beautiful women than we can imagine.  How?  By believing in himself.  By positioning himself as a man of high status.  By not bowing down to women of greater height or beauty.  And by being a guy women know is fun and energetic to be around.  In short, he’s got INNER GAME, and when you have that down, nothing can stop you.  You may even find yourself dating women who are taller than you!

But remember, presenting a man who’s healthy and strong, willing to stand up for himself and the girl in a fight: that’s the kind of guy who women will go for, regardless of height.  Did you know that men with strong immune systems give off pheromone scents that women are instinctually attracted to?  If you pay attention to what you eat and go to the gym on a regular basis, you’re going to build your immune system up, and attract women without even trying!  So do it, and watch the number of dates you get, soar.

In the end, men are like books: women judge them by their covers, so it’s up to us to show them what’s really inside.  Make your cover captivating, and you’ll become a "best-seller" in no time!

I still remember getting the call, the call I knew would come but was nonetheless shocked to hear.  My friend, Johnny, after just 10 months of marriage to a girl everyone knew was wrong for him, had gotten divorced.  Instead of becoming a happily-ever-after couple, Johnny and Marissa had joined millions of other Americans and become statistics.  Statistics of the all-too-common divorce.

It’s funny how these short-term marriages and long-term miseries occur.  Usually it begins with a bad case of "Oneitis."

Don’t know the word Oneitis?  Well, surely you know this infectious disease’s symptoms:

• You think you’ve met the girl who’s perfect for you, who you can have a great relationship with and eventually marry
• You ignore the bitchy behavior and abuse that comes from this girl, still believing that she’s "The One"
• You see and know girls who you know would be much better for you, but ignore them because the girl you’re with is better-looking, taller, skinnier–a number of superficial qualities that don’t add up to the love you know you could get elsewhere
• You spend lots and lots of money on this girl, and she never bothers to thank you–or if she does, it’s less than sincere
• Your friends all tell you that this girl isn’t right for you, but you ignore their advice
• Maybe your friends have even fought with this girl, but you defend her even though you know deep-down her behavior is unacceptable
• You spend all your time with this girl, and ignore your friends and family
• You find yourself calling her all the time to see what she’s doing, and who she’s with
• You can’t get this girl out of your head, even when she’s long gone!

If you’ve ever watched the classic film Swingers, then you know what Oneitis is: it’s the character of Mikey!

Unfortunately, a lot of guys become the Mikeys of this world.  And while some men may just go through this with a girl they’re only dating, other guys, like Johnny, take this obsession all the way to marriage.  And that’s when the "disease" becomes deadly.

How do you know when a girl is right for you?  I could write book after book after book about what’s right and what’s wrong, but what it comes down to are ten essential ingredients for lasting success:

• She supports and encourages your goals and interests.  A girl who’s right for you should follow you on your path–not try to re-direct it her own way.  Unfortunately, Johnny’s wife wanted him to do something completely different to the direction he wanted to head, so it was little wonder that their romance fizzled out so quickly.  Guys, if you can’t be open about your feelings, interests, passions and purpose, then you shouldn’t be with the girl.  She should be able to listen and understand, not disregard and sneer.
• You can accept her and her goals and interests.  Just like a woman should support and push you on the path you want to head, so too should you be able to do the same for her.  If she’s into motorcycling and you hate it, or if she wants to travel the world and you just want to stay in one place, then chances are you two aren’t made for each other.  Likewise, you should be able to understand her emotions and concerns–both of you MUST be good, compassionate listeners.
• She loves you for you, not your money and possessions.  So many rich and powerful men have destructive relationships with women.  Why?  Because the woman aren’t marrying these men–they’re marrying their money.  And divorce isn’t cheap, so even when these guys break up with the bloodsuckers, the women still get a hefty chunk of the pie!
• She generally gets along with your family and friends–and doesn’t mind seeing them.  So many guys seem to forget this, watching dumbly as their girlfriend pulls them further and further from their family and friends to have him all for her own.  I’ve got an uncle who blindly allowed himself to end all contact with his family because his wife hated them.  Somehow they’re still married, but is that the kind of woman you want to be with?
• She’s on the same page, spiritually, as you. Spirituality is a big thing for couples–it can unite them like nothing else.  I know so many couples who are happily married because they believe in the same God, the same purpose in life, the same deep feelings about their existence.  Conversely, couples who battle over the questions of life just do not have the same loving romance.  A girl who’s right for you doesn’t necessarily have to believe in the same religious principles and dogmas as you, but if she’s an atheist and you’re a Christian, things may not work out long-term.
• She wants to spend as much time with you as with her own friends and family.  This may seem like an obvious one, but so many guys fawn over girls who only see them on THEIR schedule.  If a girl is really right for you, you shouldn’t have to obsess over her or ask her permission to see her.  You should both WANT to see each other and miss being with one another–that’s a sign that you’re both in love.
• You both share the same feelings for another.  If you know deep in your heart that you want to marry her and spend the rest of your life with her, but she’s non-committal and vague, then you should certainly move on.  A true, loving partner should accept you completely for who you are and what you feel.  On the other hand, if you both feel comfortable sharing feelings with each other, and she accepts the deep things that you reveal to her, then you’ve found a true catch!
• You both make time for each other, even through work and school.  Spending quality time with one another is crucial.  If your girl is always at her job, concentrating on her career, or studying for a degree, and not making an effort to be with you, then it’s time to move on.  True love knows no bounds–including time.  While it’s great to have a girl who’s serious about her career and education, this can also be a relationship-breaker if she takes either too seriously.
• Money and possessions are not as important as love.  This is a simple one: If your girl only talks about possessions and money, if that’s where her true values lie, then you might want to back out of the relationship.  Every girl wants good things in life, but if she really loves you, then how much you make and how much you give her shouldn’t be #1 on her priority list.
• You both are able to put each other ahead of yourselves.  This can be the make or break of a relationship.  If she’s willing to do things for you, sacrifice time with her friends or time at work to be with you and make you meals, then you’ve found yourself a winner.  However, if she’s always cancelling dates, spending more time with her friends than with you, and never gets you any gifts or acts of service, then you’ve found yourself a bitch.  Move on.  When she treats herself more important than you, then you’re heading towards disaster.

In the end, you want a girl who can you be you around, and know that you’re valued by her night and day.  If you’re in a relationship now that you want to be more serious, ask yourself if the woman you’re with fulfills these 10 requirements.  And if you’re looking for love, don’t get too far into it unless you really feel that the girl treats you right.

For all of you in a marriage or just got divorced, I highly recommend you check out this great service I found over the web.  You can get free, high-quality newsletters that will tell you how to handle your marriage, or find a new one, and what kinds of signs to look out for that your relationship is on the rocks.  Check out Save My Marriage Today now.

And remember: There’s a big difference between "The One" who’s right for you…and "The One" who will become your biggest nightmare!