It’s a fact: If you want to score with hot babes, you’ve gotta be the master of your domain.  You have to master your social skills.

It’s easy to believe that looks are all-important, but it’s WRONG.  As Joseph Matthews, author of "The Art of Approaching Women," says, "The single biggest, most limiting belief guys have that keeps them from succeeding is the belief that LOOKS MATTER." 

Much more important to women is how well you interact with others—men AND women alike.  You can be the best-looking guy in the world, but if you can’t muster anything to say to a group of people, or don’t know how to hold their interest and make them WANT to get to know you, then you’re not going to attract women.  Period. 

The good news is, if you do know how to socially interact with people, nothing can stop you from attracting the gorgeous, high-quality women you desire!  Even if you’re short, bald, fat, ugly, or all four, if you know HOW to make people laugh, HOW to captivate an audience’s interest, and HOW to build and share connections and relationships with people…then you’ll have no problem attracting gorgeous women! 

With that said, let’s look now at the Top 5 social skills for impressing and attracting women everywhere:

1. Cocky Comedy–specifically, busting someone’s balls and teasing. 

As I describe in great detail in my 30-lesson attraction audio course, humor is one of the most powerful weapons around for building attraction.  But the purpose of humor isn’t to make people laugh; it’s to show you have control and an ability to make people feel better in your presence.  A guy who makes people laugh improves people’s moods and makes them want him to hang around–a truly awesome power to hold.

As David DeAngelo says,

"If you want to be funny, get a joke book.  If you want to learn how to make a woman feel attraction for you by the way you talk to her and communicate with her, then focus what you’re going to learn on CREATING AND AMPLIFYING ATTRACTION." 

This can be done in several ways, but the best are the funny ways that show that you are ABOVE her and don’t NEED her.  Generally this means being a bit of a jerk and breaking a girl’s balls, especially in front of her friends. 

One example is teasing a girl in front of her friends.  A guy who has the balls to say, "Man, does this girl EVER shut up?" or "Is she always this annoying?" to a girl’s group of friends, commands awesome power.  He will quickly fit into the group, make them laugh, and come off as a very cool, attractive guy, all in one. 

Why?  Because doing something ballsy and somewhat rude makes people remember you.  People are bored everyday: in the morning they wake up, have a boring breakfast, drive their monotonous commute to work, get bored at work, drive the same monotonous commute back home, eat their boring dinner, watch their boring television, hang out with the same boring people, go to bed, wake up, and do it all over again. 

They’re looking for something new…so it’s YOUR job to break their state!  Give them something different, something funny, something that makes them say, "I can’t believe he just said that!"  Breaking a girl’s balls–pointing out her ridiculous skirt, or some weird personality trait–takes people out of their element, makes them laugh, and creates an emotional connection to you.  They remember you, and want to see you again. 

Most importantly, they want their girlfriends to see you again!  So if you can impress one girl in a group, you can impress them all!  And that’s the quickest way to the sexual intimacy and attraction you so desire. 

For more detailed information on how to use these skills for social mastery–and high-powered, sexual attraction–check out "How to Be Irresistible to Women PREMIUM." 

2. Story-Telling

Work on your story-telling as much as possible.  A guy who can captivate an audience with awesome stories that draw listeners in impresses the HELL out of women and makes himself very attractive.  It’s a combination of power, intelligence, and social maneuvering, all in one: a very attractive combination.

For more great information on how to tell stories, I recommend checking out Joseph Matthews’ "The Art of Approaching Women".  He has an awesome chapter on how to impress women with the art of storytelling, as well as how to improve your storytelling skills.

But you don’t have to have travelled around the world or scaled Mt. Everest to have an impressive story; what it all comes down to is how you present your story.  That means your tonality, pitch, volume: all kinds of ways in which you talk.  Great story-tellers take an otherwise boring tale and make it spell-binding. 

For more great information on how to tell a compelling story, check out Renee Grant-Williams’ excellent book, Voice Power.

3. Being the Center of People’s Universe

Girls don’t want someone who kisses people’s asses.  They want a guy in control, a guy whose universe only revolves around one person: HIMSELF.  An attractive guy doesn’t need other people for happiness and validation; he only needs himself. 

As David DeAngelo says,

"A woman wants a man who is strong enough to attract her, hold her in his orbit, and keep her there…but the thing that really keeps her ‘attracted’ (feeling attraction) is the tension that comes from not quite being ‘all the way there.’" 

That is, you have to be able to bring a group of people closer…but not too close.  Keep a girl curious, keep her wanting more.  This can be done through teasing and pushing her away–slap her wrist or make jokes about her in front of her friends.  Tell her to stop following you: "Man, stop stalking me, you’re weirding me out!" 

Even better, walk away just when things are getting good.  Say you have to go check on your friends or go somewhere else.

For example, if you’ve told a great story that has everyone laughing, leave just when they’re all cracking up.  Show that your universe is so big that you have bigger things to do.  This will give people–particularly your target–time to reflect on what a cool guy you are, and make them come chasing to hear more.  They’ll beg you to stay, but insist that you have to go.  This will make them want you all the more, and have your target chasing after you and throwing herself at you.  Attraction gold!

4. Vocal Celibacy

This is an excellent, oft-overlooked skill that relationship expert, Carlos Xuma, recommends in "Secrets of Becoming the Alpha Man."

Believe it or not, sometimes the best skill is actually just to shut up.  That’s right: a man who listens draws people in.  Ever notice how women, and even men, flock to the guys who sympathize and listen to them?

Well, you don’t have be a soft, Dr. Phil type to be a good listener.  In fact, listening brings with it a large amount of POWER.  By pausing for a few seconds after someone says something, making them wait for you to respond, you make them feel uneasy, expecting…and, in the case of women, more attracted to you.  Because you show you have the upper hand.  You have control.

As Xuma writes,

"The next time a woman asks you a question, PAUSE for a little bit.  Keep pushing the limit until you cannot answer the question at all.  She’ll try to make you feel uncomfortable, but if you can handle that it’ll increase your confidence immeasurably." 

More importantly, it will make HER more confident in you…she can’t help but want to be drawn into your universe.  You’re unlike anyone she’s ever met before!

What is the fifth social skill you need to attract women? 

Well, I can’t tell you it all here.  This last one is so good that it would be a crime for me to only write a few paragraphs about it on a blog!  This is the real deal, the make or break, the skill that all the naturals, all the gurus, all the pick-up masters MUST use to get into a woman’s heart.  It will make not only your target attracted to you, but her whole group of friends, as well!

You can find out all about this vitally important social skill in the "Projecting Value" and "How to Impress the Hell Out of Every Woman You Meet" lessons, available on my spectacular "How to Be Irresistible to Women PREMIUM" interactive audio course.  Along with these lessons you’ll learn the essentials of story-telling, cocky comedy, listening power, body language, and the other essential social skills YOU need to sexually attract women everywhere. 

This is great stuff that you can’t miss out on.  So why not get started today?  Become a master of social skills, and see your popularity and attraction soar.

As you know, the New Year is a time of resolutions.  Whether it’s to give up bad habits or to develop good ones, 2007 represents an opportunity to become the "you" you always wanted to be.

Who do YOU want to be this year?  What kind of man do YOU want women to see?

• Do you want to be the man who continues to strike out with women…or the man who heads into a bar, club, party or even workplace with a CONFIDENCE in how to interact with them?
• Do you want to fail miserably to get dates with beautiful women…or do you want to get dates with ease, and know how to make every date a special, successful one that always ends on a good note?
• Do you want to be overwhelmed by anxiety and fear when it comes to sex…or learn how to MASTER it, and exude sexuality and competence to even the most gorgeous of babes?
• And finally, do you want to continue DOUBTING yourself and your ability to attract and socialize with women…or do you want to feel like a naturally attractive man who women enjoy being around, and look forward to meeting?

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It sucks being alone on the holidays.  I’ve been there, perhaps you’ve been there (or are there now), and you probably know someone else who’s been there.  More than any other time in the year, it’s when you want to have someone special by your side.  It’s when you want to share the festive holiday spirit with someone you care about.  And it’s when a little physical intimacy will keep you both warm from the chilly night air…

Not there yet?  Well, it’s never too late to kick-start your romantic life.  If you’re serious about finding the girl of your dreams TODAY, then why not take advantage of the festive holiday spirit?  There are so many women out there who want a man by their side for Christmas and New Year’s.  YOU can be that man, if you’re willing to do what it takes to up your attraction meter.

The question then, is, What can you do to attract women in such a short amount of time?  How can you ensure that you find someone in time for the big celebrations December 25th and 31st?  Here are five great places to go to find women–and what to do when you meet them:

1. Throw a Holiday Party. This is a great way of attracting women. If there’s one thing that gets women emotionally and physically excited during the season of good cheer, it’s a man who surrounds himself with people during a festive time. It gives them the security that this man will show them a good time, and surround her with people so that she’s never alone.

An important lesson to remember with women: They need to have someone for special times like Christmas–even more than you! No woman wants to be alone, so by asserting yourself as the man who has lots of people around him, you automatically establish yourself as a desirable candidate. You tell her that if she hangs around you, she’ll never be alone.  Additionally, by throwing a fun, happy party, women automatically associate the positive vibes from the holiday season with YOU, and when you create that kind of emotional arousal, anything can happen.  It’s all about creating emotions in women, which I go into much detail in in my audio course.

So invite everyone you can think of–your friends, family, co-workers, acquaintances–to a holiday get-together. Make sure they invite someone.  Play some festive holiday music, have some holiday treats ready (cookies, eggnog, candy canes, etc.), and even dress up as Santa. Even better, REQUIRE women to wear a Christmas costume.  The naughtier they are, the better!

Have a "Naughty" and "Nice" list, and promise the girls a good spanking if they’re naughty. It may sound sexist, but believe me, women LOVE this: it allows them to be loose and have fun, something they’ll forever connect with you. Mix charm and attitude, and you surely won’t be alone that night or any other.  If things go well, you can always invite the girl to be "Santa’s Little Helper"…

2. At Stores and Malls. Hey, unless you’re the type who buys all your presents online, chances are you’re going to have to visit some stores to buy your loved ones some gifts.  And when you go to the mall, the department store, or even the little boutique, chances are you’ll see some attractive females while you’re there.  So take advantage of this!  It’s the one time in the year when you can get away with talking to complete strangers: women are in a festive mood and much more open to conversations with people they don’t know.  So take advantage!

Possible openers include: "Man, do you hate Christmas shopping as much as I do?", or if you want to neg a little, "Oh no, please!  Don’t tell me you’re buying someone THAT!"  Challenge your target a little bit; make her have to defend herself.  This, again, gets her emotionally aroused–even if it’s a negative emotion–which she’ll forever connect with you.  By saying something more than a compliment, something that forces her to respond, you create a literal chemical attraction:the emotions swirl in her brain, and she forever has an imprint of you that matches her to those emotions. 

So be ballsy and show that you’re not too interested, even a bit offended by her: "Wow, that <item> would be a great present for somebody who’s blind" or "Phew, I’m glad I’M not the person you’re shopping for!"  She may act offended, even a little angry, but if you stick to your guns, you’ll be conversing in no time and offering her someone who’d be fun to hang around during the holidays.

3. Spread Some Holiday Cheer on the Dance Floor. Teasing is a great way to show you don’t take girls too seriously. Dancing is a great way of showing you don’t take life too seriously. Even if you suck at dancing, the fact that you go out there and have a good time will impress women big-time. They love a man who can have fun and enjoy the holiday season. Going out there and having the time of your life dancing shows a woman that you will show her a good time during the cheery season. And in the end, that’s what they really want. So have fun, loosen up, and ask a woman to dance. If she sees you’re having a good time, believe me, she’ll want to join you–in more ways than one. Seriously!

4. Talk to Miss Lonely. While at any party–your own, a work party, a club-hosted holiday party, whatever–be sure to take advantage of my old "Love Actually" lesson: NOBODY wants to be alone during the holidays! So if you see a girl standing/sitting by herself or looking miserable at a holiday party, be the "knight in shining armor" who goes up to her and cheers her up. Tell her a joke, comment on the party, even tease her with "C’mon, it’s the Christmas season, you can’t possibly be sitting here all by yourself!" Women love a man who cheers them up, and if you can take her from a negative state of mind to a positive one, believe me, she won’t forget that. Just be the man who lifts her mood, and you’ll be sure to see her again.

5. Use the Mistletoe/Midnight! Finally, never underestimate the power of the mistletoe and the strike of midnight on New Year’s. Both are amazing props for setting up a first kiss. They work especially well with women you’ve had at least a few minutes of quality chat with.

You won’t want to use the prop right away–build up the suspense for an especially good kiss–but once you sense things are going well, "conveniently" position yourselves under the Mistletoe. Don’t even hide the fact that it’s an obvious ploy; play it up: "WOW, we’ve somehow managed to land ourselves under the mistletoe. How did THAT happen?" or "Well, congratulations, you’ve managed to trap me under the mistletoe.  I knew you were trouble." Believe me, if you add enough humor and charm–and you don’t need a lot to succeed–then women will be glad to comply.

And more importantly, you’ll have a very happy holidays!

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Now it’s YOUR turn!

What makes a good date?  Money?  Romance?  Good conversation?

Those things help, but what ultimately matters is how you make a woman feel.  The feelings, the positive or negative emotions she gets from being around you, are what separate you from success and failure.  And believe me, if you can make her feel great emotions when you’re in her presence, there’s nothing to stop you from seduction and relationship success!

With that said, how do you summon good emotions into your date?  How do you make her associate a positive feeling with YOU?  How do you draw out the emotions that make a woman want to take things to the next level of intimacy and relationships?  The way I see it, there are three factors to success:

1. Where You Take Her

2. How You Present Yourself

3. How You Handle Your Date

Each of these is crucial.  You must not succeed in only one area, but in all of them.  Let’s look at each:

First is where you take your date.  The great thing about dating is that it gives you a chance to use "props" to make yourself look like a winner.  If you take a gorgeous women to a really fun place at which she has the time of her life, it’s not going to matter so much how you look, what you say, or how much money you have.  Bring a woman to a really fun place like a salsa class or theme park, and she’ll connect the positive emotions from those places, automatically, with you.  It’s a wonderful thing.

One key thing to remember is that you want to choose your date location based on the kind of things you want a woman to associate with you.  If you want her to feel excitement and energy, bring her to a carnival or theme park.  If you want her to think of you as intelligent and serious (careful with that one), take her to a play or perhaps a poetry reciting.  And if you have the time and money, and want her to think of you as daring and adventurous, you can’t go wrong with a bungee jumping or white-water rafting date!

Then there are dinner dates.  I discourage dinner dates because unless you’re a gourmand or a chef who has a passion for food, dinner dates don’t say much about you.  On top of that, they can be very expensive and yield no results.  Who wants to spend $200 on a girl only to get nothing out of it?  All she sees out of a guy who takes her out to dinner is someone who’s unoriginal and plays by the book; he’s not a risk-taker.  So try something more daring and engaging.  Something like indoor rock climbing doesn’t cost that much at all, and will yield much better results.

As Leil Lowndes, author of "How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You," writes, "someone is more likely to be attracted to another if he or she is emotionally aroused-even if the arousal does not come from the person."

Next, let’s look at how you present yourself.  Now, with this, I’m not talking about how good-looking you are to the woman, but more about how you position yourself: what you say about yourself through your clothes and hygiene.  You can’t expect a date to go well if your clothes look frumpy and your teeth have gunk in them.  But if you wear nice clothes that are clean, ironed, and a bit funky or sophisticated, then you’re communicating to women that you care about your appearances.  You give her the feeling that she’s with a guy who pays attention to appearances and wants to convey success.  A guy who wears a suit does not look trashy or poor.  But a guy who arrives at a date wearing ripped-up jeans and has hair like he just came out of bed…well, how is she supposed to feel anything other than disgust at that one?  What you wear, how you style your hair (even if you’re bald!), and how clean and fresh you come across: these are the things that INSTANTLY create emotions in women.  Make sure you stir up the right emotions!

Finally, let’s talk about how you handle your date.  That is, how do you manage the date as it moves along?  With confidence, the actions that suggest you are of high status, and a bit of cockiness…or with hesitation, treating the date with more respect than yourself, and low confidence?  To me, there are three "checkpoints" in every date:

1. How you greet your date.  Do you act like you’re lucky to see her?  Do you say, "Wow, great to see you, you look beautiful!" or something to that effect?  If so, stop.  That just make a woman think that you feel lucky to be with her.  She doesn’t want to feel like she’s with a guy who’s not good enough for her.  She wants to feel like she’s not good enough to be with YOU.  Doing little things that force her to respect you, like calling her out for being late or simply greeting her with a laid-back, "What’s up?" accomplish that.

2. How you move things along.  Nothing makes a girl more uncomfortable–and lowers her association of things with you–than an awkward pause in the date.  This doesn’t mean that you’re not allowed to let things die down a little; it just means that you have to know how to handle these pauses.  In my e-book I discuss a lot about control–how to handle situations and make the most of them.  In a date, you want to be able to go from silence one second to laughter and excitement the next.  There are many ways to do this, including teasing a girl about something or bringing up something interesting she said earlier (showing her that you listen to what she says, which makes her feel valued).

3. How you end it and set things up for next time.  Do you end a date leaving a girl wanting more?  Do you reveal everything about yourself in the first (or second or third) date, or make her curious for next time?  Do you seek validation from her…or have her seeking validation from YOU?  These are the things you want to think about…the areas that show you have confidence in seeing her again, and confidence that you can direct her where you want.

Naturally, there’s much more to a date than this.  What do you say?  What specific strategies can you employ to make her interested in more?  What are the very best places to take a date?

Fortunately, there are answers: My How to Be Irresistible to Women course.  Find it now at:

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It’s YOUR turn.

It’s a common complaint, an annoying situation, even a man’s worst nightmare.

You know what I’m talking about: When a girl you like wants to be "just friends."

Aaaaargh!  Who wants that?  You like this girl, you want intimacy, but all she wants is friendship.  How do you turn things around?

In short, you have to make a girl REMEMBER you.  Whereas guys who are much more than friends are always on a woman’s mind, friends are just…there.  There’s no special emotion connected to them.  They’re just…friends.

So how do you change this?

Let’s start with the basics: What do women want in a romance?  Well, if you’ve read my previous blog post (and if you haven’t, do it now!), you know that women are looking for STAND-UP GUYS, guys who mean business and don’t take no for an answer.  They want a protector, a defender, a man who will always be at their side.

Now ask yourself: Is that me?

If you’re the kind of guy who avoids conflict, treats women with deference and worship, jumps at the opportunity to listen to her moan…

Then you’re a nice guy.  You don’t stand up for yourself.  You don’t assume leadership.  You sit down when a woman wants you to jump up and save her butt!

So it seems, nice guys always finish last.  They end up in the friend zone, instead of the BED zone.

But does it have to be that way?

NO!  You just have to make one change that will forever transform your game.  I’m not talking about becoming a bad boy; you can be a stand-up guy without being a jerk.  Stand-up guys are just good guys who give women the same things they love about bad boys–without beating girls up and treating them like trash. 

I’m talking about bringing to the table the one thing girls love.  The one thing bad boys–and stand-up guys–have that nice guys just don’t.  The difference between nice guys and STAND-UP guys can pretty much be summarized in one word: attitude.

The stand-up guys, the guys who are MORE than just friends, bring ALPHA ATTITUDE to the table.  They bring confidence, swagger, independence, and centered-ness around them.  Whereas nice guys revolve their worlds around pleasing and being nice to women, stand-up guys revolve their world around themselves.  They’re on a path, a mission, and if a woman doesn’t want to join them, it’s her loss.  But if she does want to join him, she better recognize that his world, is her world.  Not the other way around.  

If a girl is "just friends" with you, she probably doesn’t take you seriously enough.  Or, you haven’t shown her you’re serious enough about HER for her to make a move herself.

So how do you change things so that your female friend/acquaintance/secret crush will be attracted to you? 

I really like is advice from Carlos Xuma’s  "Secrets to Becoming the Alpha Male":

"Women want STRONG Alpha Men. Guys who can lead them and protect them.

Don’t make the mistake of believing that women want jerks. They
only desire certain Alpha qualities the jerk possesses and that the
Nice Guy is afraid to show.

These Alpha qualities act like a potent drug on her nervous system,
blinding her (temporarily) to the reality of the Jerk’s bad
influence. Eventually she finds herself emotionally locked to
someone she doesn’t like, but can’t seem to get away from."

In other words, you show a girl attitude.  You penetrate her emotions.  You become a drug to her, someone so daring, so masculine, so irresistible, that thoughts of you are stuck in her head day and night.  They want to see you so badly, that nothing else crosses their minds.

Contrast these emotions to the ones she feels about nice guys, the "just friends."  Does she even remember who they are?

When it comes to getting the girls you want, it often all comes down to the first meeting and first impression. It’s true, two of the most common mistakes men make are either showing too much sexual intention too soon, or not showing any at all. Mistake number two will leave you in the Friend Zone. So how do you strike that balance?

ANSWER: The "How to Be Irresistible to Women" e-course and audio series!  In my chapter on "Nice Guys," you’ll find out the FIVE WAYS to project bad boy attitude, and get bad boy results…without a personality makeover!  You can read that chapter, and many more, by downloading my e-book at: 

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You’ll get everything you need to know about building alpha attitude, forming emotional connections that women can’t resist, and raising the attraction level from friendship to physical relationship. 

Hey, you don’t have to finish last.  Finish first!  Because it’s YOUR turn.

Ever heard of David DeAngelo?  If you’re familiar with the seduction community, then you’ve probably seen his name.  He’s the "guru" behind such phrases as "cocky funny," "attraction is not a choice," and one of my personal favorites, "Different in a preferential way."  He’s also the author of "Double Your Dating," and the host of the amazing  "Interviews with Dating Gurus" audio series.  Basically, he’s a guy who’s gone from "average chump who can’t get girls" to "relationship oracle."  The big question is, Should you buy his product?

Unlike a lot of other guys out there, DeAngelo didn’t become a seduction master overnight, just by throwing tips and tricks at the wall and seeing what stuck.  DeAngelo actually took the time to get to the root of why he wasn’t attracting females, the same thing I say is the key to a man’s success with anything: INNER GAME.  As he writes, "When I made the decision to get this part of my life handled, I decided that instead of trying to start with an angle…that I would like to learn in a way that gave me power to act with just my personality and presentation.  In other words, I wanted to make this part of who I was rather than a ‘trick.’"

One thing you realized as you read DeAngelo’s book is that there is so much more to the art of attracting women than just techniques and gaming.  There’s a whole world of self-improvement and self-mastery that one needs to achieve to truly succeed with women and life.  There’s neurolinguistic programming, attitudes,
mindsets, frame control, inner states: fascinating, brilliant information that DeAngelo explains in detail.  He truly follows what I call "ABL": Always Be Learning.  By opening your mind to new things every day, you open doors to personal success and self-esteem you never knew possible.  In fact, by embracing inner game techniques, says DeAngelo, succeeding with women becomes natural for you, which is a sharp contrast to the products a lot of pick-up artists and other "experts" sell.  A lot of guys will tell you you just need to ACT alpha, or BE someone you’re not.  But that doesn’t really solve the problem, does it?  Because you’re still unhappy with who you are, and women notice that.  They’re turned off by your insecurity and fakeness.

But DeAngelo doesn’t recommend being someone you’re not; he recommends being the best person you can be.  DeAngelo dedicated himself to learning everything he can about mind frames, skills, and attitudes: the keys to success, and truly fascinating keys, at that.  He recommends every kind of motivational book from "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway" to "Think and Grow Rich," by Napoleon Hill.  This is important, because as he says, you can never know enough about success.  "Keep improving all the time, even if it’s the SMALLEST DETAIL."  There’s always something you can do better…how you respond to a female asking you for a light, how you walk into a bar, how you handle rejection–EVERYTHING.  In this book, DeAngelo takes you through some deep stuff that will truly set you up for success far beyond just female attraction, because it will be ingrained in you.  Flirting and approaching won’t be lines you have to remember; they’ll become natural extensions of your personality.

Of course, "Double Your Dating" isn’t just about mindsets and attitude: it’s really about what things turn women on, where to go, how to talk, how to react: in short, how to successfully interact with females.  DeAngelo takes you through common problems of insecurity, neediness, self-doubt, shyness, and other common problems, and specifically how to overturn them.  He tells you how to catch beautiful women’s attention by wearing the right clothes and positioning yourself the right way, what to say to bitchy women, how to reverse situations so that YOU look like the catch, and most interesting of all, the six things that attract women.

For example, one of the things women instinctually love is exclusivity: playing hard to get, already having a girlfriend, that sort of thing.  DeAngelo lists a number of ways to make yourself seem exclusive, including having snappy responses, pretending to not be interested, acting unpredictably, and really fascinating, "short-circuiting the all-annoying testing mechanism." Curious how that works?  Then definitely check out the book.

There are a lot of tips David gives that one wouldn’t normally think of.  For example, always ending conversations first.  This has two advantages: first, it says you’re not a needy guy, and you have things to do.  Secondly, it gives YOU control of every
situation.  As he writes: "If you start doing this with EVERY call, EVERY meeting, and EVERY conversation, you will be blown away by the responses you’ll get.  You’ll have women say, ‘What?  But we’re having so much fun…!’, ‘Well, when can I see you again?’, or ‘Don’t you like me?’"

It’s different stuff, but as DeAngelo says, "In the mating game, it pays to be different in an ATTRACTIVE way."  How do you do that?  DeAngelo explains in great detail how doing things like treating a bitchy women with attitude and control of the situation, instead of apologizing and obeying her commands, will set her heart on fire and instantly separate YOU from 99% of the other guys out there…even the tall, rich, and handsome ones!

Truly mind-blowing stuff.  But, is "Double Your Dating" right for you?

Besides the fascinating e-book and three free books on sex and attraction that will open your mind to areas of attraction and self-improvement you probably would have NEVER thought of before, you also get some really good audio CDs.  These are interviews with guys who have "made it," who understand the principles behind female attraction.  You get to hear big names like Style, Mystery, Carlos Xuma, and my personal favorite, Ken Kenny.  We’re talking the heavyweights of the seduction community here.  DeAngelo gives a forum for you to hear the best of the best information out there. He’s like an Oprah of the dating world!  To me, that’s a good thing that’s worth checking out for the amount of quality learning alone!

So you get the e-book, three bonus books, a free double "Interview with Dating Gurus" CD-set, as well as a free month’s subscription to the "Dating Gurus" interview series.  Not bad for just $19.97, isn’t it?

I mean, there are lots of dating books, seminars, and CDs out there. Why pick up DeAngelo’s?  Well, in the end I feel his groundbreaking self-mastery concepts and ability to provide you with fascinating advice from dozens of other gurus (even female ones!), to be the difference.  You can buy other products that will tell you what it means if a girl’s head leans to the left, and what it means if she leans to the right.  You can learn techniques that feel unnatural and forced; maybe they’ll work one or two nights.  That kind of stuff is okay, but you’ll quickly forget it and it will only really help you for, maybe, one good night.

What you really want is a resource that can change your attitudes and approaches to women FOREVER.  Not for one night of success, but for many.  You want a resource that will make your attraction skills and techniques a natural part of you, something that springs automatically from your powerful inner game.  I would say that "Double Your Dating" IS that resource.

So if you’re keen to learn more, find out how to attract women now at the Double Your Dating website.

Enjoy!

When it comes to attracting women, sometimes you have to think like a marketer.  You have to consider your "packaging," and the way you present your "product."  That means you have to take the time to think like the "consumers"–women–and know what they want.  Because when it comes to the world of female attraction, the customer is always right!

Remember that before they can get to know the "real" you, women only have visual cues on which to judge your worthiness: your clothes, your height, your demeanor, your status.  We men are just like any other product: we are immediately judged by the packaging.  Whereas evolutionary science suggests that men consider only youth and physical attractiveness to select a mate or sex partner, women need more than that.  Their evolutionary hard-wiring, determined to find the best mate for them and their unborn children, requires them to look a little bit deeper for a worthy husband or sex partner.  This is where we men have to put ourselves in the shoes of our "customers" if we want to sell our "product."

One evolutionary scientist, Dr. David Buss, did a study of over 10,000 people in 37 countries, on six continents, and found that women value men based on three big things: ambition, status, and financial resources.  Similarly, relationship expert, Andrea P. Roberts, suggests that women determine a man’s worthiness based on 3 "T’s", or "takais," a Japanese word that represents good qualities: education level, physical height, and salary level.   Quite a bit deeper than having a nice ass and big breasts, isn’t it?

Okay, some of you may be thinking: Well, I’m not tall, and I’m not rich.  Now what?!?

The good news is, height and wealth are only things that women pre-qualify men on; it’s not the be-all and end-all of attraction.  It’s similar to saying you want a really expensive car…but that doesn’t mean you’d never drive a Honda. As Roberts writes, "even an ordinary man doesn’t have to be exceptionally rich or powerful to make women want him. It’s all a matter of the women’s perspective if he ends up taller, smarter or wealthier than them." 

Got that?  It’s all about perspective: how you market yourself successfully to a woman.  Hey, lots of people know that Apple computers are better than PC’s, but that doesn’t seem to stop Microsoft, does it?  So if you’re short, or of average income, but present your positive traits in the right way, it won’t matter: you’ll become the Windows of the male market!  As Roberts writes, "Think of Napoleon, Mickey Rooney or Groucho; they are humorous, artistic or politically powerful men who wooed women into their beds and, horizontally, the height issue wasn’t a factor. Polite and persuasive persistence is the best trait."

So what we have are five areas that we must appeal to if we want to spark an initial attraction from women.  After that, it’s up to you to show what a great guy you are: let her know you’re special, unique, one of a kind.  That’s what ultimately separates the haves from the have-nots.  Even good-looking, tall guys will strike out if they lack other qualities women look for, such as humor, courage, and love. 

So don your thinking caps, guys: It’s time to think like marketers and adopt the 5 things women immediately look for in men!

1. Ambition

From an evolutionary stand-point, this one makes complete sense.  Think cavemen and cave women in the Stone Age, with some of the weaker cavemen seeking a higher station in the power hierarchy.  Who do you think the cave women went for?  The men who hobbled along meekly in the bottom of the order…or the men who strived for more and sought a higher place in the pack?  Much of a woman’s desire to be with a man who is ambitious and seeks success, is based simply on survival: The more powerful the man, the more likely she’ll survive and live well.  From a logical standpoint, going for a guy who has no ambition means she’s likely to live in poverty and struggle.  Not too appealing, is it?  You can’t really blame females for thinking like this; no one wants to stay at the bottom of the pack living in misery.

So you have to present yourself as a guy who’s not satisfied with his station in life.  This is good for both you and her.  If you’re making $7 an hour at the gas station and are content to stay there, not many women are going to be attracted to you.  But if you’re making $7/hour and working your ass off to become an owner of a gas station, taking business classes at night so you can learn how to run a business: well, suddenly you’re not so bad-looking!  Believe me, women will give men a chance, they want to–as long as they see potential.  If you’re headed somewhere, they’ll deal with the short-term struggles knowing that you’re on a path to greatness.  More importantly, by being ambitious and aiming for more, you’re helping yourself out.  It’s a win-win situation.

2. Status

Again, evolutionary hardwiring makes women naturally attracted to men of high status; it’s very much a comfort and survival issue.  High status=good living for herself and her children.  Fortunately, projecting high status does not have to be difficult; according to Roberts, "Wearing the right clothes, especially nice shoes, can go a long way toward portraying wealth. Taking on the unshaken or unworried attitude of wealthy men can project affluence. Hesitant, irresolute, bland men come across as having lower incomes and being less reliable."  Got that?  You don’t have to be a powerful, articulate man yourself–you just have to project similar qualities.

Some of these qualities include:

* Not putting yourself down.  Without being a braggart, talk positively about your accomplishments, job position, and possessions–even if they’re not much.  If you treat things as a big deal, other people will, too.  Conversely, if you downplay your accomplishments and character, women will, too.  Your attitude is contagious, so remember to paint things in the right light.

* Act confidently around women.  Don’t let women assume a higher status than you.  Show them that YOU are the one with higher status.  You can do this in a number of ways, including not acting impressed by a woman’s beauty or career (say, she’s a model); teasing her about her clothes or makeup; and asking her to buy you a drink.  Chances are she won’t, but just by acting like you deserve it, you raise your status!  She’s not such an untouchable goddess in the end. 

Remember, as well, that women want to EARN a man; they relish the challenge of luring in a winning catch.  So play hard to get: talk to other girls, say you’ve got to be leaving just when things are going well, don’t immediately ask for her phone number.  If you act like a man who can have his pick of women, then chances are, you will!

* Knowing people of high status.  This is a great one.  Get to know the people of power: the club owners, bartenders, maitres’d.  Position yourself as a sociable person who’s in the know.  When a woman sees you getting special treatment and chatting with high-status people, she’ll see right away that you’re someone of importance.  It will also reduce the importance of the other factors, such as height, money, and ambition; immediately you’ve proven yourself valuable.

* Wearing nice clothes.  "When a man is well dressed," writes communications expert, Leil Lowndes, "it signifies his ability to provide for her offspring." You don’t have to be rich and powerful to wear nice clothes.  You just have to show that you’re a man of quality, a man headed towards somewhere who pays attention to dress (something women cna never get enough of).  Formal clothes, such as a suit, convey that you are serious about success; you desire good things.  So just by wearing a nice sports jacket, dress shirt, and slacks, you let a woman know you’re a man with status.  You’re a man who could provide for her and her children.

Colors in clothing and jewelry are vital: Studies show that red, burgundy, and black clothes convey high status.  So get yourself some nice black suits or formal wear, a red shirt, and one of my favorites (and girls’!), a sleek burgundy button-down shirt.  They all convey regality and strength.  In the case of red, you have the added bonus of sexuality, power, and dominance: definitely good qualities to portray!  Go and purchase a nice red polo shirt, or red tie for your suit. 

If you enjoy white clothes–the color of purity and cleanliness–then make sure you work on your TAN.  White clothes against a dark backdrop make you look exotic, sexy, and well-travelled.  You don’t have to be an jet-setting playboy, to look like one!

* Winning body language.  Women judge men by the way they move and position themselves; it’s part of their superior communication skills to know what a man is thinking or feeling based on his body language.  So, position yourself in the right way: don’t slouch, sit upright, gaze at her knowingly, lean into her to initiate intimacy.  I’ve got a great column on body language that will teach you the right ways–and the wrong ways–to project high status.

3. Financial Resources

According to Matthew Fitzgerald, author of "Sex-ploitation," "Studies with college coeds show that when shown photographs of men dressed in high-status uniforms (suits, ties, expensive watches, etc.) and low-status uniforms, these women would be significantly more willing to enter into relationships with the more expensively-attired males regardless of the man’s physical appearance. To a woman, attraction is simple: green is very good-looking."

Okay, so not every guy has money for expensive suits and watches, and materialism may not be part of your game.  However, if you want to impress women, one of the fastest ways is by wearing snazzy clothes, sporting nice shoes (girls LOVE shoes!), and driving an expensive car.  Especially when it comes to designer brands, women are VERY keen at spotting high-quality products.  It’s just part of their nature; with expensive possessions come high status and ambition, and a more comfortable lifestyle.  Again, this all comes from their instinctual drive for survival and prosperity for themselves and their children.  By owning the best, you become the best.  At least on the surface.

For guys who don’t want to live such a shallow existence, never fear.  As Roberts writes, "Remember; money is just an energy that represents some emotion for women. Money is equivalent to affection, and perhaps gives them a sense of freedom, security and power. You can substitute money for feelings. For example, if she likes the freedom she gets from having money, you could ramble around in a motor home on hardly any cash and she’ll be happy."  In the end, it’s comfort that women want, and money can only give so much of that.  I know many women who passed up on pretentious, wealthy men for ones who weren’t rich on possessions but wealthy in love and care. 

Ultimately, if you want true love it’s up to you to find women who share the same goals and values.  If money and status aren’t the most important things in life for you, don’t chase the girls who do prioritize those things.  Don’t go for the shallow, bitchy types who only judge a man by how much he can spend on her.  Read my blog on choice to gain a greater understanding of the importance of choosing only women who fit YOUR purpose,  direction, and values.

4. Educational Level

Knowledge really is power, and on top of that, it’s an aphrodisiac!  Gone are the days when being smart was acquainted with being a nerd; now, knowledge and intelligence are your friends.  It’s the easiest way to money, and the easiest way to success.  So show it off a little.  Let her know your TALENTS, your interests, your areas of special knowledge.  As Roberts writes, "Women are drawn to experts like…Bill Gates and Chris Rock because they’re experts in their industries."  Neither of those guys is particularly good-looking, but they’re good at what they do, and parlay their knowledge into success, which drives women wild.

A guy who’s an expert is one who is clearly successful and of higher status.  At the very least, having a special knowledge means you have the TOOLS for success, and can provide intellectual stimulation for a girl (which, unless she’s a bimbo with an IQ of 70, is quite important for women).   Additionally, just being in school is a great way to show off your knowledge: "If you’re in school, not only are there more women available, but you’ve already demonstrated to them that you’re getting educated. Otherwise, it’s up to you to come across as reliable and credible without making her feel dumb."

5. Physical Aptitude

Physical height alone is an easy way to catch a woman’s attention, but it’s not the only thing.  Again, evolutionary mechanics come into play here.  A man who is tall, strong, and athletic is more likely to fend off threats to the woman and her children.  He is also more likely to have a strong immune system, which will further aid their chances of survival.  So, you can’t blame women too much for valuing these things: in the world of female attraction, it really is a survival of the fittest.  Those who show women they are in shape and healthy are much more likely to survive the dating game!  Ergo, athletes, bouncers, firemen get the girls.

What does this mean for guys who aren’t very fit or tall?  It means, for your benefit, you should get in shape.  Build some muscles (you don’t have to be a bodybuilder to look good), improve your heart-rate, learn how to defend yourself with a martial arts class or boxing.  A guy who women think can protect them and pass on good genes to their children, is an attractive one. 

As for height, it’s all a matter of perspective.  We’ve all seen short guys with tall beautiful women.  Neil Strauss himself, the best of the best pickup artists, is just 5’6" yet gets more beautiful women than we can imagine.  How?  By believing in himself.  By positioning himself as a man of high status.  By not bowing down to women of greater height or beauty.  And by being a guy women know is fun and energetic to be around.  In short, he’s got INNER GAME, and when you have that down, nothing can stop you.  You may even find yourself dating women who are taller than you!

But remember, presenting a man who’s healthy and strong, willing to stand up for himself and the girl in a fight: that’s the kind of guy who women will go for, regardless of height.  Did you know that men with strong immune systems give off pheromone scents that women are instinctually attracted to?  If you pay attention to what you eat and go to the gym on a regular basis, you’re going to build your immune system up, and attract women without even trying!  So do it, and watch the number of dates you get, soar.

In the end, men are like books: women judge them by their covers, so it’s up to us to show them what’s really inside.  Make your cover captivating, and you’ll become a "best-seller" in no time!

It’s easy for us men to think that women won’t go for us unless we have a special talent.  But as Erika Jong said, "Everyone has talent.  What is rare is the courage to follow the talent to the dark place where it leads."

It’s true: we all have talents.  Think for a moment about a talent you may have.  It could be anything:  

• You know how to play billiards really well 
• You can speak a foreign language (even if not fluently)
• You know how to fix cars
• You know some magic tricks
• You can do really good impersonations
• You know how to play an instrument
• You’re really good at your job
• You can cook a great plate of lasagna (or any dish, for that matter)

Don’t discount anything.  In my audio series, "The Art of Impressing Women," I detail some great ways to impress women, and one of the most important ways to doing this is to not only have, but DISPLAY, a talent–no matter how marginal it may seem.

One of my favorite "guy" movies is "The Tao of Steve," which shows how Dex, a fat guy with no aspirations, easily gets hot, gorgeous women.  How?  Simply by following the 3 rules of the Tao.  They are:

1. Eliminate your desires.
2. Do something excellent in her presence, thereby proving your sexual worthiness.
3. Retreat, for as Heidegger said, "We pursue that which retreats from us."

Or, to put it more simply:

1. Be desireless
2. Be excellent
3. Be gone

Dex’s talent was that he knew how to cook a really mean lobster dish; thus, he fulfilled the second rule.  He knew one thing, and he did it well.  In the process, he followed the first and third rules of the Tao by not being overly eager to impress the girl and get her phone number, and just after he impressed the girl with his talent, he would be gone.  After cooking for her, he would say, "Well, I gotta get ready for bed."  She would beg him not to go, thus de-powering herself and em-powering Dex.  And he would say, "Well, I guess I could stay a little longer."  And you can guess where it went from there…

So, like Dex, you should aim to be excellent at something, all while "holding the cards" to a woman’s heart.  Does that mean you have to know how to cook gourmet meals or buld your own motorcycles from scratch (a la American Choppers)?  Hell no!  It simply means you have to find within yourself that one talent, that one skill, that separates yourself from the rest of the male pack–and use it to your every advantage.

I’ll give you an example of how to do this.  His name’s Jared, and he’s not the most talented person in the world.  Like Dex, he’s not exactly a man on a mission; he plays lots of video games and watches lots of TV.  Yet somehow he’s never lacking for female companionship.  Why?  Because when he goes out and meets girls, he does something that amazes them: he’s taught himself (proving that great talent does not have to come naturally) some really impressive card tricks.  That’s it.  Jared’s not an athlete, he’s not a gourmet cook, he’s not a guitar player.  He just taught himself how to do some cool magic tricks, and does them so well that girls are naturally attracted to him.  It works!

But does Jared go out of his way to show off his skill?  NO.  Actually, what Jared does is act really easy, really casual, ask the girl lots of questions about herself (first rule of the Tao: be desireless), then wait til there’s a pause in the conversation to ask, "Hey, you wanna see something cool?"  The girl will say yes, and he’ll tease her: "Oh, too bad.  You’ll have to wait til later."  This is what I call "curiosity building," and it’s a proven girl getter.  Stimulate her curiosity, hold her at bay, and she’ll not only become more curious in your talent, but more interested in you. 

So Jared will string the girl along for a while, then say, "Fine! Fine!  I’ll show you the stupid trick," with a grin.  This changes the game so that the girl has become the chaser, Jared the chased, and he is able to "placate" her with his trick. 

What Jared does, in essence, is follow the first rule of the Tao to the T: he acts truly desireless.  He turns the tables on girls so that THEY seem like the ones filled with desire, not him.  In making them more desirous than him, he becomes more empowered and, of course, more attractive.  It’s truly brilliant stuff.

On top of that, once Jared has impressed the girl, he makes sure to follow the third rule: RETREAT.  He strings along the girl for so long that she can’t help but be attracted to him.  And just when she’s realized that she’s met a really great, talented guy, he says, "I have to go," or, "Hey, my buddies are waiting for me."  By doing this, he ensures that the girl needs him, more than he needs her.  In the process, she’ll give him her phone number and ask him for a date, in a desperate attempt to see him again.  He expertly becomes the pursued, not the pursuer–now that’s a magic trick!

This is all part of the art of impressing women, an art that takes time to master but once you’ve done it once, the next few times are easy.  Naturally, it does require that you actually show the girl your talent in action, of course; saying you’re a great cook and then not being able to describe what you do accurately, or not be able to cook for her at all, will only make you look foolish and lose the girl quicker than you say, "Gone." 

But now, as a single guy or a guy looking for a new relationship, you have the chance to work on the skills you have, however small they may be, and do something truly magical to impress women.  Look at your time of single status not as a loss, but as an opportunity, to become a truly one-of-a-kind guy.

And once you’ve figured out what your talent or talents is, make the most of them.  Learn how to lead girls along with your talent;like Jared, create opportunities out of them.  If you know how to cook, ask the girl what her favorite plate is.  Say she answers, "Penne a la vodka."  You should respond, "Really?  Wow, that’s cool, because I make a great dish of Penne a la vodka."  She’ll naturally want to see how you make it, so you can answer, "Yeah, it’s too bad I have to be leaving, you won’t get to try it just yet."  Don’t ask her to come over to your house to try your cooking–instead, be desireless and retreat.  Make HER ask to come to your house or apartment to try out your cooking.  That way you’re making HER the desired one, and YOU the empowered one.  And when you "hold the cards," you can get anything you want.  ANYTHING.

It’s all about learning your talents–and knowing how to use your talents.  No less an authority than Benjamin Franklin said, "Hide not your talents.  They for use were made.  What’s a sundial in the shade?"