It’s a fact: If you want to score with hot babes, you’ve gotta be the master of your domain.  You have to master your social skills.

It’s easy to believe that looks are all-important, but it’s WRONG.  As Joseph Matthews, author of "The Art of Approaching Women," says, "The single biggest, most limiting belief guys have that keeps them from succeeding is the belief that LOOKS MATTER." 

Much more important to women is how well you interact with others—men AND women alike.  You can be the best-looking guy in the world, but if you can’t muster anything to say to a group of people, or don’t know how to hold their interest and make them WANT to get to know you, then you’re not going to attract women.  Period. 

The good news is, if you do know how to socially interact with people, nothing can stop you from attracting the gorgeous, high-quality women you desire!  Even if you’re short, bald, fat, ugly, or all four, if you know HOW to make people laugh, HOW to captivate an audience’s interest, and HOW to build and share connections and relationships with people…then you’ll have no problem attracting gorgeous women! 

With that said, let’s look now at the Top 5 social skills for impressing and attracting women everywhere:

1. Cocky Comedy–specifically, busting someone’s balls and teasing. 

As I describe in great detail in my 30-lesson attraction audio course, humor is one of the most powerful weapons around for building attraction.  But the purpose of humor isn’t to make people laugh; it’s to show you have control and an ability to make people feel better in your presence.  A guy who makes people laugh improves people’s moods and makes them want him to hang around–a truly awesome power to hold.

As David DeAngelo says,

"If you want to be funny, get a joke book.  If you want to learn how to make a woman feel attraction for you by the way you talk to her and communicate with her, then focus what you’re going to learn on CREATING AND AMPLIFYING ATTRACTION." 

This can be done in several ways, but the best are the funny ways that show that you are ABOVE her and don’t NEED her.  Generally this means being a bit of a jerk and breaking a girl’s balls, especially in front of her friends. 

One example is teasing a girl in front of her friends.  A guy who has the balls to say, "Man, does this girl EVER shut up?" or "Is she always this annoying?" to a girl’s group of friends, commands awesome power.  He will quickly fit into the group, make them laugh, and come off as a very cool, attractive guy, all in one. 

Why?  Because doing something ballsy and somewhat rude makes people remember you.  People are bored everyday: in the morning they wake up, have a boring breakfast, drive their monotonous commute to work, get bored at work, drive the same monotonous commute back home, eat their boring dinner, watch their boring television, hang out with the same boring people, go to bed, wake up, and do it all over again. 

They’re looking for something new…so it’s YOUR job to break their state!  Give them something different, something funny, something that makes them say, "I can’t believe he just said that!"  Breaking a girl’s balls–pointing out her ridiculous skirt, or some weird personality trait–takes people out of their element, makes them laugh, and creates an emotional connection to you.  They remember you, and want to see you again. 

Most importantly, they want their girlfriends to see you again!  So if you can impress one girl in a group, you can impress them all!  And that’s the quickest way to the sexual intimacy and attraction you so desire. 

For more detailed information on how to use these skills for social mastery–and high-powered, sexual attraction–check out "How to Be Irresistible to Women PREMIUM." 

2. Story-Telling

Work on your story-telling as much as possible.  A guy who can captivate an audience with awesome stories that draw listeners in impresses the HELL out of women and makes himself very attractive.  It’s a combination of power, intelligence, and social maneuvering, all in one: a very attractive combination.

For more great information on how to tell stories, I recommend checking out Joseph Matthews’ "The Art of Approaching Women".  He has an awesome chapter on how to impress women with the art of storytelling, as well as how to improve your storytelling skills.

But you don’t have to have travelled around the world or scaled Mt. Everest to have an impressive story; what it all comes down to is how you present your story.  That means your tonality, pitch, volume: all kinds of ways in which you talk.  Great story-tellers take an otherwise boring tale and make it spell-binding. 

For more great information on how to tell a compelling story, check out Renee Grant-Williams’ excellent book, Voice Power.

3. Being the Center of People’s Universe

Girls don’t want someone who kisses people’s asses.  They want a guy in control, a guy whose universe only revolves around one person: HIMSELF.  An attractive guy doesn’t need other people for happiness and validation; he only needs himself. 

As David DeAngelo says,

"A woman wants a man who is strong enough to attract her, hold her in his orbit, and keep her there…but the thing that really keeps her ‘attracted’ (feeling attraction) is the tension that comes from not quite being ‘all the way there.’" 

That is, you have to be able to bring a group of people closer…but not too close.  Keep a girl curious, keep her wanting more.  This can be done through teasing and pushing her away–slap her wrist or make jokes about her in front of her friends.  Tell her to stop following you: "Man, stop stalking me, you’re weirding me out!" 

Even better, walk away just when things are getting good.  Say you have to go check on your friends or go somewhere else.

For example, if you’ve told a great story that has everyone laughing, leave just when they’re all cracking up.  Show that your universe is so big that you have bigger things to do.  This will give people–particularly your target–time to reflect on what a cool guy you are, and make them come chasing to hear more.  They’ll beg you to stay, but insist that you have to go.  This will make them want you all the more, and have your target chasing after you and throwing herself at you.  Attraction gold!

4. Vocal Celibacy

This is an excellent, oft-overlooked skill that relationship expert, Carlos Xuma, recommends in "Secrets of Becoming the Alpha Man."

Believe it or not, sometimes the best skill is actually just to shut up.  That’s right: a man who listens draws people in.  Ever notice how women, and even men, flock to the guys who sympathize and listen to them?

Well, you don’t have be a soft, Dr. Phil type to be a good listener.  In fact, listening brings with it a large amount of POWER.  By pausing for a few seconds after someone says something, making them wait for you to respond, you make them feel uneasy, expecting…and, in the case of women, more attracted to you.  Because you show you have the upper hand.  You have control.

As Xuma writes,

"The next time a woman asks you a question, PAUSE for a little bit.  Keep pushing the limit until you cannot answer the question at all.  She’ll try to make you feel uncomfortable, but if you can handle that it’ll increase your confidence immeasurably." 

More importantly, it will make HER more confident in you…she can’t help but want to be drawn into your universe.  You’re unlike anyone she’s ever met before!

What is the fifth social skill you need to attract women? 

Well, I can’t tell you it all here.  This last one is so good that it would be a crime for me to only write a few paragraphs about it on a blog!  This is the real deal, the make or break, the skill that all the naturals, all the gurus, all the pick-up masters MUST use to get into a woman’s heart.  It will make not only your target attracted to you, but her whole group of friends, as well!

You can find out all about this vitally important social skill in the "Projecting Value" and "How to Impress the Hell Out of Every Woman You Meet" lessons, available on my spectacular "How to Be Irresistible to Women PREMIUM" interactive audio course.  Along with these lessons you’ll learn the essentials of story-telling, cocky comedy, listening power, body language, and the other essential social skills YOU need to sexually attract women everywhere. 

This is great stuff that you can’t miss out on.  So why not get started today?  Become a master of social skills, and see your popularity and attraction soar.

It’s a common complaint, an annoying situation, even a man’s worst nightmare.

You know what I’m talking about: When a girl you like wants to be "just friends."

Aaaaargh!  Who wants that?  You like this girl, you want intimacy, but all she wants is friendship.  How do you turn things around?

In short, you have to make a girl REMEMBER you.  Whereas guys who are much more than friends are always on a woman’s mind, friends are just…there.  There’s no special emotion connected to them.  They’re just…friends.

So how do you change this?

Let’s start with the basics: What do women want in a romance?  Well, if you’ve read my previous blog post (and if you haven’t, do it now!), you know that women are looking for STAND-UP GUYS, guys who mean business and don’t take no for an answer.  They want a protector, a defender, a man who will always be at their side.

Now ask yourself: Is that me?

If you’re the kind of guy who avoids conflict, treats women with deference and worship, jumps at the opportunity to listen to her moan…

Then you’re a nice guy.  You don’t stand up for yourself.  You don’t assume leadership.  You sit down when a woman wants you to jump up and save her butt!

So it seems, nice guys always finish last.  They end up in the friend zone, instead of the BED zone.

But does it have to be that way?

NO!  You just have to make one change that will forever transform your game.  I’m not talking about becoming a bad boy; you can be a stand-up guy without being a jerk.  Stand-up guys are just good guys who give women the same things they love about bad boys–without beating girls up and treating them like trash. 

I’m talking about bringing to the table the one thing girls love.  The one thing bad boys–and stand-up guys–have that nice guys just don’t.  The difference between nice guys and STAND-UP guys can pretty much be summarized in one word: attitude.

The stand-up guys, the guys who are MORE than just friends, bring ALPHA ATTITUDE to the table.  They bring confidence, swagger, independence, and centered-ness around them.  Whereas nice guys revolve their worlds around pleasing and being nice to women, stand-up guys revolve their world around themselves.  They’re on a path, a mission, and if a woman doesn’t want to join them, it’s her loss.  But if she does want to join him, she better recognize that his world, is her world.  Not the other way around.  

If a girl is "just friends" with you, she probably doesn’t take you seriously enough.  Or, you haven’t shown her you’re serious enough about HER for her to make a move herself.

So how do you change things so that your female friend/acquaintance/secret crush will be attracted to you? 

I really like is advice from Carlos Xuma’s  "Secrets to Becoming the Alpha Male":

"Women want STRONG Alpha Men. Guys who can lead them and protect them.

Don’t make the mistake of believing that women want jerks. They
only desire certain Alpha qualities the jerk possesses and that the
Nice Guy is afraid to show.

These Alpha qualities act like a potent drug on her nervous system,
blinding her (temporarily) to the reality of the Jerk’s bad
influence. Eventually she finds herself emotionally locked to
someone she doesn’t like, but can’t seem to get away from."

In other words, you show a girl attitude.  You penetrate her emotions.  You become a drug to her, someone so daring, so masculine, so irresistible, that thoughts of you are stuck in her head day and night.  They want to see you so badly, that nothing else crosses their minds.

Contrast these emotions to the ones she feels about nice guys, the "just friends."  Does she even remember who they are?

When it comes to getting the girls you want, it often all comes down to the first meeting and first impression. It’s true, two of the most common mistakes men make are either showing too much sexual intention too soon, or not showing any at all. Mistake number two will leave you in the Friend Zone. So how do you strike that balance?

ANSWER: The "How to Be Irresistible to Women" e-course and audio series!  In my chapter on "Nice Guys," you’ll find out the FIVE WAYS to project bad boy attitude, and get bad boy results…without a personality makeover!  You can read that chapter, and many more, by downloading my e-book at: 

http://www.000relationships.com/towomen

You’ll get everything you need to know about building alpha attitude, forming emotional connections that women can’t resist, and raising the attraction level from friendship to physical relationship. 

Hey, you don’t have to finish last.  Finish first!  Because it’s YOUR turn.

It’s easy for us men to think that women won’t go for us unless we have a special talent.  But as Erika Jong said, "Everyone has talent.  What is rare is the courage to follow the talent to the dark place where it leads."

It’s true: we all have talents.  Think for a moment about a talent you may have.  It could be anything:  

• You know how to play billiards really well 
• You can speak a foreign language (even if not fluently)
• You know how to fix cars
• You know some magic tricks
• You can do really good impersonations
• You know how to play an instrument
• You’re really good at your job
• You can cook a great plate of lasagna (or any dish, for that matter)

Don’t discount anything.  In my audio series, "The Art of Impressing Women," I detail some great ways to impress women, and one of the most important ways to doing this is to not only have, but DISPLAY, a talent–no matter how marginal it may seem.

One of my favorite "guy" movies is "The Tao of Steve," which shows how Dex, a fat guy with no aspirations, easily gets hot, gorgeous women.  How?  Simply by following the 3 rules of the Tao.  They are:

1. Eliminate your desires.
2. Do something excellent in her presence, thereby proving your sexual worthiness.
3. Retreat, for as Heidegger said, "We pursue that which retreats from us."

Or, to put it more simply:

1. Be desireless
2. Be excellent
3. Be gone

Dex’s talent was that he knew how to cook a really mean lobster dish; thus, he fulfilled the second rule.  He knew one thing, and he did it well.  In the process, he followed the first and third rules of the Tao by not being overly eager to impress the girl and get her phone number, and just after he impressed the girl with his talent, he would be gone.  After cooking for her, he would say, "Well, I gotta get ready for bed."  She would beg him not to go, thus de-powering herself and em-powering Dex.  And he would say, "Well, I guess I could stay a little longer."  And you can guess where it went from there…

So, like Dex, you should aim to be excellent at something, all while "holding the cards" to a woman’s heart.  Does that mean you have to know how to cook gourmet meals or buld your own motorcycles from scratch (a la American Choppers)?  Hell no!  It simply means you have to find within yourself that one talent, that one skill, that separates yourself from the rest of the male pack–and use it to your every advantage.

I’ll give you an example of how to do this.  His name’s Jared, and he’s not the most talented person in the world.  Like Dex, he’s not exactly a man on a mission; he plays lots of video games and watches lots of TV.  Yet somehow he’s never lacking for female companionship.  Why?  Because when he goes out and meets girls, he does something that amazes them: he’s taught himself (proving that great talent does not have to come naturally) some really impressive card tricks.  That’s it.  Jared’s not an athlete, he’s not a gourmet cook, he’s not a guitar player.  He just taught himself how to do some cool magic tricks, and does them so well that girls are naturally attracted to him.  It works!

But does Jared go out of his way to show off his skill?  NO.  Actually, what Jared does is act really easy, really casual, ask the girl lots of questions about herself (first rule of the Tao: be desireless), then wait til there’s a pause in the conversation to ask, "Hey, you wanna see something cool?"  The girl will say yes, and he’ll tease her: "Oh, too bad.  You’ll have to wait til later."  This is what I call "curiosity building," and it’s a proven girl getter.  Stimulate her curiosity, hold her at bay, and she’ll not only become more curious in your talent, but more interested in you. 

So Jared will string the girl along for a while, then say, "Fine! Fine!  I’ll show you the stupid trick," with a grin.  This changes the game so that the girl has become the chaser, Jared the chased, and he is able to "placate" her with his trick. 

What Jared does, in essence, is follow the first rule of the Tao to the T: he acts truly desireless.  He turns the tables on girls so that THEY seem like the ones filled with desire, not him.  In making them more desirous than him, he becomes more empowered and, of course, more attractive.  It’s truly brilliant stuff.

On top of that, once Jared has impressed the girl, he makes sure to follow the third rule: RETREAT.  He strings along the girl for so long that she can’t help but be attracted to him.  And just when she’s realized that she’s met a really great, talented guy, he says, "I have to go," or, "Hey, my buddies are waiting for me."  By doing this, he ensures that the girl needs him, more than he needs her.  In the process, she’ll give him her phone number and ask him for a date, in a desperate attempt to see him again.  He expertly becomes the pursued, not the pursuer–now that’s a magic trick!

This is all part of the art of impressing women, an art that takes time to master but once you’ve done it once, the next few times are easy.  Naturally, it does require that you actually show the girl your talent in action, of course; saying you’re a great cook and then not being able to describe what you do accurately, or not be able to cook for her at all, will only make you look foolish and lose the girl quicker than you say, "Gone." 

But now, as a single guy or a guy looking for a new relationship, you have the chance to work on the skills you have, however small they may be, and do something truly magical to impress women.  Look at your time of single status not as a loss, but as an opportunity, to become a truly one-of-a-kind guy.

And once you’ve figured out what your talent or talents is, make the most of them.  Learn how to lead girls along with your talent;like Jared, create opportunities out of them.  If you know how to cook, ask the girl what her favorite plate is.  Say she answers, "Penne a la vodka."  You should respond, "Really?  Wow, that’s cool, because I make a great dish of Penne a la vodka."  She’ll naturally want to see how you make it, so you can answer, "Yeah, it’s too bad I have to be leaving, you won’t get to try it just yet."  Don’t ask her to come over to your house to try your cooking–instead, be desireless and retreat.  Make HER ask to come to your house or apartment to try out your cooking.  That way you’re making HER the desired one, and YOU the empowered one.  And when you "hold the cards," you can get anything you want.  ANYTHING.

It’s all about learning your talents–and knowing how to use your talents.  No less an authority than Benjamin Franklin said, "Hide not your talents.  They for use were made.  What’s a sundial in the shade?"

It’s a question every guy asks himself, every guy struggles with at some point or another, every guy desperately wants to know the answer to:

WHAT DO WOMEN WANT?

The answer isn’t easy to come by.  There are as many answers as there are types of women: young, old; fat, skinny; talkative, quiet; beautiful…not so beautiful.  They all want different things, different men for their different personalities.  It’s enough to drive a man crazy!  We want to know so badly what it is women desire that Hollywood addressed the age-old question with the movie "What Women Want" (which, I’m embarrassed to say, I enjoyed). 

So, surely…there must be something ALL women want?

That’s the good news: There are certain qualities every woman can appreciate.  And as men, that’s what we need to focus on most.  Not on what we THINK they want, but on what we can KNOW they want.  Maybe we think being 6’5", wealthy, and jacked like a football player is what every woman wants, but (thankfully) it’s not.  Only certain women want that, and the groupies who only want a millionaire athlete on steroids usually aren’t even worth your time. 

It’s better to focus on the girls YOU really want: the girls who make you feel good, and make you a better man.  Empower yourself with a sense of choice, so that you don’t waste your time (and theirs) hitting on girls who don’t fit with your personality and purpose.  The great news is, if you can provide the basic qualities that all women REALLY desire, then getting the girl of your dreams will be easy!

So let’s look at some things we can safely say women want in a man–regardless of his size, regardless of his looks, regardless of his wealth.

1. A demonstrative value.  That is, women want to know that their man is someone other women would want.  They want a certain "gotta have" quality about their man.  This is why, when we go out with a girlfriend, women give us looks and always seem more interested.  It’s annoying but true: the easiest way to get a girl, is to have one already!

Naturally, that doesn’t mean that you should be hitting on girls when you have a girlfriend.  No way!  But when you are single, it’s important to know how to show value.  I’ve got a great lesson on this in my e-book that will show you everything you need to know: how to make her laugh, how to show a talent, and how to make sure she never leaves you. 

There’s so much to learn, but in short, you want to be a guy girls love to be around, and that other girls want to have!  If you don’t feel like you’re there right now, do your best to be a fun-loving guy who people enjoy being around.  Be quick with a smile, and quick with a joke.  Even a guy who smiles a lot can be someone girls want.  Who doesn’t enjoy being around someone who’s happy, who lifts the mood of the room?

2. A man who needs her…but not too much.  This can greatly value from girl to girl, but basically women DO want to feel appreciated.  They just don’t want to be obsessed over.  Guys, show interest in a woman, and make her feel beautiful and wanted…but don’t slave over her and make her feel like you can’t live without her.  That’s just pathetic, and drives women away.

I wrote a blog on how women want to feel needed.  Check it out now if you want to find out how to show your woman the right amount of love.

3. A feeling of security.  Women want to feel safe with a man.  They want to know that everything’s gonna be all right.  This doesn’t mean you have to be huge and strong, or have millions in the bank.  It just means you have to talk reassuringly to her, look after her safety, and assure her when she needs it that things are going to be OK.

It also means coming to her protection, when she needs it.  If someone is being a jerk to her, stand up for her.  If she’s being threatened, fight for her.  Let her know that you will fight for her, and nothing will get in your way. 

One of the best ways to make her feel confident that you will protect her, of course, is to be…

4. A guy who’s in shape.  Okay, I said that you don’t have to be a professional rugby player to attract women, but that doesn’t mean you should let your body slide!  Part of a woman’s evolutionary mechanism says that a man who is strong will protect her and the children, as well as produce strong children.  Likewise, a man who is weak will produce weak children, and not be able to protect the family as well (if at all)  It may occur subconsciously, but it’s there. 

So show her your value by being a guy who’s well-built, healthy, and athletic.  Join a gym, not just to get women but to improve your health and the way you see yourself.  Join a martial arts class–who doesn’t like a guy who can kick some ass?  You’ll feel better about yourself, making it easier to pick up girls, and her mating drive will only naturally attract her to you. It’s a win-win situation!

5. Someone who’s not boring.  Doesn’t matter how good looking you are…if you bore a woman to tears, she’s not gonna stick around–or even give you a chance, for that matter.  Be someone who smiles.  Someone who’s quick with a laugh.  Someone who doesn’t take life too seriously, who lets loose.  That shows a lot more value than a guy who’s stiff and serious–even if he is good looking or wealthy.  Believe me, there are lots of guys who have money, who have good looks–but are single, because they’re dull and not fun to be around. 

6. Someone who’s good with her friends.  You’ve seen it at bars: girls always look to their friends for their approval.  Get their friends’ approval, and you get the girl’s approval.

Oftentimes it’s actually best to concentrate on getting to know the girl’s group of friends before you spend time talking to her.  If you can make her friends laugh and enjoy your company, getting the girl you want will be a piece of cake!

I really like this piece of advice from Joseph Matthews, aka Thundercat, author of The Art of the Approach, in his free e-newsletter: "Meeting women when they are with their friends is WAY easier than waiting for when they are alone!  This is because women with friends feel safe and relaxed, so their defenses aren’t up."

Furthermore, he warns that you’re not doing your chances any favors by waiting til she’s alone: "If you wait until she’s by herself to meet her, you’re walking into a situation where she’s going to be WAY more defensive than usual."  So learn to be sociable, and just have fun with her friends!  If you can make them enjoy your company, getting your "target’s" approval will be a piece of cake.

This is also where it’s good to go with girls in the same social network as you…you already have the approval of mutual friends.  The book, Sex in America, says that 60% of married couples meet through friends, work, or mutual activities.  For more information on using networking to your benefit, click here. 

Finally, the trait all women REALLY want: 7. A man with a purpose.  Believe me, women don’t expect every guy they meet to be worth hundreds of millions of dollars, have more power than the mayor, and be more handsome than Brad Pitt.  They don’t expect you to be wildly successful.  But they DO want you to be headed towards success.  They DO want you to have direction.  They DO want you to be living up to your potential.  And those aren’t bad expectations to have!  Remember, "Behind every great man is a great woman."  You may not be at the top just yet, but as long as you’re heading there, with goals in life, you’re bound to attract women.  And more importantly, reach your own personal success.

I highly suggest you read "The Way of the Superior Man," by David Deida.  It details the importance of having a life purpose, both for you and for your girlfriend or wife.  The book also explains the very important idea that if someone doesn’t fit into your purpose, or detracts you from it, then she isn’t worth your time.  As I said above, don’t just go for any old girl: go for the ones who fit YOU, and who make YOU a better person.  That’s what we men should really want!

I hope all of this advice helps you out as you seek to improve yourself and attract the women who matter to you.  Remember that it isn’t important to know what the bimbo who wants to spend all your money wants: it’s important to know what women who want to be with you want.  Empower yourself by being choosy, and you’ll be sure to attract the woman who’s right for you. 

Finally, for more information on attracting the specific women you really want, check out my e-book and audio series.  Thanks for reading!